Why is it that even into the 21st century, there are still groups of people among the metal community who still live under the mentality that if it's not "fast and brutal", it is not metal? Why are there still people out there who think that in order to be "metal elite", you have to dress a certain way, or act over the top? I was reading a review for the Opeth dvd, and someone actually said they took the dvd back, because Opeth was "too polite". Just in my own 20 year lifetime, I've seen the genre of heavy metal grow in ways that no one could ever imagine, yet there are still people who believe that in order to be a metalhead, you have to act like a big, dumb, aggressive jerk. Doesn't that just further the thousands of stereotypes we already receive? Just because a person is into metal, doesn't mean they have to carry the attitude of "Oh, I'm metal, so I'm gonna act like a jerk." If you're gonna return your Opeth dvd because the guys in Opeth don't act like complete dicks, then be my guest. But don't get terribly mad when you become the target of ridicule for acting like just another dumb metalhead.