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The part you quoted -
That's exactly what people are saying, because that's the truth of the matter - "I'm glad you served so I don't have to." That is honestly exactly what the thanks amount to. I don't see why that's a slap in the face.
I think it rings hollow because it's not something that's actually much in the mind of the speaker, until they see a veteran or whatever. It's for the speaker, not the hearer.
Let me just add a disclaimer here that I don't thank our troops when I see them out and about; but I don't thank them because I don't presume to know what they've done in the line of duty, and maybe they don't want to be thanked for it. So I acknowledge that there's an experiential gap that I can't bridge; but my choice not to thank them also amounts to a refusal to valorize and glorify what soldiers do.
These are good points, so thank you. I think the whole "bravery" aspect derives more from heroic ideology than from any actual experience in the military.
Well mythology and the "heroic ideology" are things that cultures push because to do the opposite would be to push being cowardly. This is a recipe for being wiped out or at a minimum subjugated by foreigners. We don't do well with balance as a species so a sort of healthy orientation towards a standing military being a "job, sometimes demanding, sometimes difficult and/or dangerous" doesn't get much traction. Being in the modern US military is generally much safer than being in the civilian world. Exclusive gated community, piles of safety protocols, everything is dumbed down as much as possible, etc. There are a select few jobs where this isn't the case (at least the safety protocols anyway), and now with women going into them they probably will also become this way.
Speaking of women (and LGBT) in the military, pretty amusing to me that the same day the Pentagon opens the door on trans service (to include paying for surgeries - there's that subsidization) and the day that USMC removes "man" from some job titles, they also roll out a revamped fitness test program that corrects, at least to some degree, some of the grosser imbalances between male and female fitness requirements, and overall significantly upped the demand on upper body strength for both males and females. Pretty smooth move.