Einherjar86
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http://www.latimes.com/nation/la-na-warrior-main-20150524-story.html
Not exhaustive but the article gets the gist of it.
The part you quoted -
So many people give you lip service and offer fake sympathy. Their sons and daughters aren't in the military, so it's not their war. It's something that happens to other people," said Phillip Ruiz, 46, a former Army staff sergeant in Tennessee who was wounded twice during three tours in Afghanistan and Iraq.
Douglas Pearce, a former Army lieutenant who fought in Afghanistan and is now a marriage and family counselor in Nashville, said civilians seem to think they "can assuage their guilt with five seconds in the airport."
"What they're saying is, 'I'm glad you served so that I didn't have to, and my kids won't have to.'"
That's exactly what people are saying, because that's the truth of the matter - "I'm glad you served so I don't have to." That is honestly exactly what the thanks amount to. I don't see why that's a slap in the face.
Let me just add a disclaimer here that I don't thank our troops when I see them out and about; but I don't thank them because I don't presume to know what they've done in the line of duty, and maybe they don't want to be thanked for it. So I acknowledge that there's an experiential gap that I can't bridge; but my choice not to thank them also amounts to a refusal to valorize and glorify what soldiers do.
Roughly 80% of military jobs are non-combat. Many "combat jobs" still don't deal in direct violence. I've got an inlaw who currently checks baggage for the AF. The closest thing to violence she's most likely going to encounter is a spilled drink.
Bravery is a word that doesn't apply very much to military affairs. It's a job, and if there is a draft, you're of course quite forced. There are certain situations where someone kind of "rises above", like Captain Ripley or John Basilone. Even then, those people themselves would probably not think in terms of bravery but instead of "it needed to be done". The bravery is in that anyone would have known it needed to be done, but wouldn't have done it. Joining the military isn't something that "needs to be done" per se, at least not yet.
It frequently isn't the case, but polls are all over the place as to exactly why it isn't. I'll say until I'm no longer alive to say it that the biggest problem in the military are the other people in the military. Of course, someone who gets in with a little prior life experience first knows that's just a part of the human condition: People are often kind of shitty. Usually it takes getting out of the military to realize many of those things you complained about can be found anywhere, and sometimes the complaints were merely a symptom of immaturity.
These are good points, so thank you. I think the whole "bravery" aspect derives more from heroic ideology than from any actual experience in the military.