Einherjar86
Active Member
Getting gut-punched is something friends can even do to each other for fun, or other games where you slap each other in the face as hard as possible, or just punching each other's arm and the first one to give in loses. Nobody does that with rape, even if the rapist thinks it's a joke to rape somebody, the victim isn't in on it and if the "victim" is in on it, it's not a rape it's just rape-play and doesn't come with the severe psychological damage an actual rape does.
I agree that there are differences between punching and rape; but just to be clear, friends punching each other for fun tend to have an agreement between them, either spoken or unspoken.
The difference between punching and rape shouldn't substantiate either as an ethically permissible act, though. Just because there are cases in which punching might be socially acceptable, and no imaginable cases in which rape is socially acceptable (obviously there are cultures in which it is, but it shouldn't be), that doesn't mean an unprovoked punching is okay.
Is it unethical to break into a stranger's home even though you don't steal anything, and just leave? Nothing is lost in the material sense, but much like a rape something is lost, or taken more accurately, psychologically. You're never the same again once your home has been violated, even if what was stolen does not measure up to the grief you feel over it. Many rape victims talk about how their consensual sexual relationships suffer dramatically due to being raped, and it's not that dissimilar to someone who has had their house broken into becoming paranoid about people walking by, or shutting all the windows and locking all the doors in a compulsive manner.
An unprovoked punch might register to someone as a loss in much the same way that rape does, albeit to a far lesser degree. I think this marking off in terms of degree just feels slippery and ultimately pretty arbitrary. And it appears to award "loss" to particular acts while denying it to others. I'm not sure what justifies these decisions beyond identifying some acts as quantitatively more harmful than others, and then arbitrarily deciding where to assign the category of loss.