rahvin
keeper of the flame
@|ngenius: a very wise man (alfred, btw) once said to me: "it is quite hard to get to know someone more and more without seeing his/her limitations pretty soon". i understand your desire to dig something good (or at least entertaining) out of the people you might have a chance to hang out with, and i understand that often those shrouded in mistery hint at mental landscapes they're not unveiling while the only reason for this is that they're actually not there.
but if you're not noticing something really enticing from the start i'd suggest staying out of steady relationships.
@violet baudelaire: surely i'm not going to the library on my free time since they pretty much pay me to work here 36 hours a week.
but yes, i understand what you mean about being more open. the point is with my current lifestyle i don't really have a chance to smile at people other than my co-workers (who are mostly men, and past their prime, as it were). since we're basically just telling stuff while we wait for any advice, here's my typical working day: i get up at 7:00 am, i drive to work, park my car and get inside. in my office i spend 6 to 9 hours working, talking with my co-workers and posting/taking care of things here. there's the odd moment when i'm needed upstairs and i meet a few students, mostly girls, but i'd find it... eerily spooky or lecherous to ask a girl out after she requested my professional intervention. then let's say i get out at 2:00 pm (which is not always the case): i drive home, turn on my pc and get back to work translating stuff or writing reviews or something. then i have dinner and i'm faced with the choice of going out or staying home for the evening. given the fact that by the time this happens i'm tired and i've got a headache, i often decide i'm better off staying in, or at least getting back early. in addition to that, i don't know who i might ask out for a beer: hyena is in rome, and most of the people i talk to during the day live, say, in spain, the states, greece, or mexico, of all places. i mainly see two guys from my town, but one of them is often busy studying at night, and the other needs to be coerced into going out by the prudent use of force. so i'm not really sure who could be the recipient of my smiles and chit-chats.
as for joining groups, i don't have anything against some of them per se. i'm not a religious individual either, but i can see the good religious groups do for their members - some groups at least - even though they just might be looking for company regardless of the framework. i just instinctively reject seeing more than 4-5 people at once, especially if i don't know them well. this is not because of some pre-pubescent feeling of "not-fitting-in" (i'm well aware that i know how to get attention at a meeting), it's just that i don't want to waste my time nodding politely while half a dozen of people cautiously remarks on sweet nothings in order not to upset a balance of formality, or maybe showing a familiarity among themselves that i do not share.
again, pretty useless but i made you spend 5 minutes reading.
rahvin.
but if you're not noticing something really enticing from the start i'd suggest staying out of steady relationships.
@violet baudelaire: surely i'm not going to the library on my free time since they pretty much pay me to work here 36 hours a week.
but yes, i understand what you mean about being more open. the point is with my current lifestyle i don't really have a chance to smile at people other than my co-workers (who are mostly men, and past their prime, as it were). since we're basically just telling stuff while we wait for any advice, here's my typical working day: i get up at 7:00 am, i drive to work, park my car and get inside. in my office i spend 6 to 9 hours working, talking with my co-workers and posting/taking care of things here. there's the odd moment when i'm needed upstairs and i meet a few students, mostly girls, but i'd find it... eerily spooky or lecherous to ask a girl out after she requested my professional intervention. then let's say i get out at 2:00 pm (which is not always the case): i drive home, turn on my pc and get back to work translating stuff or writing reviews or something. then i have dinner and i'm faced with the choice of going out or staying home for the evening. given the fact that by the time this happens i'm tired and i've got a headache, i often decide i'm better off staying in, or at least getting back early. in addition to that, i don't know who i might ask out for a beer: hyena is in rome, and most of the people i talk to during the day live, say, in spain, the states, greece, or mexico, of all places. i mainly see two guys from my town, but one of them is often busy studying at night, and the other needs to be coerced into going out by the prudent use of force. so i'm not really sure who could be the recipient of my smiles and chit-chats.as for joining groups, i don't have anything against some of them per se. i'm not a religious individual either, but i can see the good religious groups do for their members - some groups at least - even though they just might be looking for company regardless of the framework. i just instinctively reject seeing more than 4-5 people at once, especially if i don't know them well. this is not because of some pre-pubescent feeling of "not-fitting-in" (i'm well aware that i know how to get attention at a meeting), it's just that i don't want to waste my time nodding politely while half a dozen of people cautiously remarks on sweet nothings in order not to upset a balance of formality, or maybe showing a familiarity among themselves that i do not share.
again, pretty useless but i made you spend 5 minutes reading.
rahvin.
Maybe you wanted to express that, but you did not. 
