uh, it's me again. and this time i get the grand prize.
this conversation actually happened. enough said.
1: you know, i think that monogamy is wrong. my yardstick for love is "do i want to have a child with this woman?". all the other women i can bed, but i'll never love them.
2: right, i concur on the desire of a family being the true yardstick in a relationship, it's my convinction as well. but i don't agree on the rest. what if you and your girlfriend agree on having a kid and she sleeps with someone else? don't you get angry?
1: yes i do, but before lashing out at her i realize that i'm being stupid, because after all she may sleep with other men, but she's still with me. so i shut up.
2: oh really?
1: yeah. if she gets opportunities to explore other people and other potential relationships, she will either leave me for one of them or stay with me, convinced that i'm better than the rest. this is a very good way of proceeding, because it brings out the truth of love in every moment, compared and tested with alternative possibilities.
2: ok, but if on some specific night you want to be with her and she's off fucking someone else how do you fare?
1: i don't feel this constraint of time as you feel it. if it's not tonight, it will be tomorrow.
2: i reckon we don't see eye to eye on the notion of finite time, but what about the children you have? what if they see a lot of different women and men in relationships of varying intensity with their partner? they're going to be unbalanced.
1: are there ever happy families, of any kind, and based on any interpretation of how one should conduct their sex lives?
2: not really. no, not really. still, what comes out of this conversation is that we can't have a relationship. we have ideas of relationships that are too different. i'm really sorry about that, but that's how it is.
1: we already have a relationship. how do you call what we have?
2: right, we do, but i mean a proper relationship.
1: you mean we can't have a child.
2: hey, hang on, i wasn't going to that stage at all.
1: but we agreed that's the fundamental yardstick.
2: yes, yes we did. so we can't have a kid. i'm still sorry. and i normally think that if i don't want a kid with someone i don't even want sex with them and i don't even get involved really, not in the deep sense.
1: that's a vice though, that's a corruption operated by history. history is very important in shaping us.
2: i'd never dream of denying this, and i'll go one step further and say that "this system can not be reformed". some people think that they have to overthrow it, some others just sit back and buy into it. that's the whole problem really. i buy, you don't.
1: i think i'll drop economics and start writing about philosophy.
2: good riddance. do i get to see you this weekend?
1: i don't really know, i hope i'll be in town by friday but i'm not sure. i'm in town monday night for sure.
2: my dad's here for dinner on monday night so forget it.
1: but i had the whole night!
2: well, we can't have a relationship, now can we? that's the proof.
1: right, the cellphone fried my brains. goodnight honey.
2: yeah, whatever. goodnight.
'keine lust' attempts at it and it's a nice tune, but it doens't crack the code entirely. i'm in two minds about 'moskau' and 'dalai lama', i need some more listens to form an opinion. 'amerika' is a bit silly and as for 'stein um stein'... weird, but it's my less favorite track so far.
