Males and Females

Just went on a date with a woman from Jordan tonight. The middle eastern country Jordan. She's 29, Muslim, and still a virgin. Very very interesting. Very very cute. Very very sweet...and very very clingy. She wouldn't have me up to her apartment but she wanted me to stay the night in the lobby so I would spend all day with her tomorrow. Not only that but she offered to pay me money so that I wouldn't have to work. I'm obviously not about to do that shit.

The virgin part isn't necessarily a deal breaker. I've just never been with a virgin before and I think it's creepy when guys deliberately seek that out. I just don't want to spend every waking minute with anyone and I'm gonna have to find some way of letting her know to slow it down a little bit since I value my personal space. Other than that I dig her. Any advice my metal brethren?
i know this woman Named Jordan, as in named after Micheal Jordan, she's 29, Wiccan, and can't really remember being a virgin
 
also
i'm hanging out with a blue-eyed-blonde girl named Beth who loves the Tech N9NE song "Am I A Psycho?"
i've been calling her "pretty girl" and telling her she's "sexier than the girls that i have sex with"

and the girl named Crystal that i had sex with last Thursday has already disappeared

Beth, every girl i've ever met that's named Crystal, and like 97% of the women that have sex with me all use Crystal Meth, (including the girl named Jordan that i mentioned in the previous post)
 
Pretty brutal break up with the Muslim woman I was seeing. Whole host of issues on both sides.

What I tend to do with women in general is choose the polar opposite extreme. Need to really consider what my deal breakers are at this point.
 
Basically just a massive love bomber. Showered me with gifts, compliments, put me up on a pedestal, etc. It was around the time where she stopped responding to my texts while she was at work that I noticed a huge change in overall behavior. I don't expect an essay but not hearing a single thing from your girlfriend for 18+ hours at a time is at least going to make you worry a little bit. It also wouldn't be a big deal if this was just one time but it was every day. She doesn't own a car so she was ubering home and I'm pretty sure she isn't so busy that she's still working then.

I'm not a jealous guy and I don't think she was cheating or anything. I mean I'm sure it's possible but I think she was just ignoring me on purpose. That whole "devaluing" phase of love bombing where you don't meet her standards of her ideal version of you. So she resorts to silent treatment to see if that changes anything. I could see a change from one week to the next with this too. One week she'd be bright, bubbly, and responsive. The next, and usually after a suspiciously disappointed hang out we had, more silent treatment.

So basically I got sick of her barely saying anything all day long, calling her out on it, nothing changing, and her just telling me what she thinks I want to hear on the phone. She abruptly asks me to come over one Saturday. Declined and she was FURIOUS and called me several times which I ignored. Then she tried to gas light me into thinking I was awful for not answering her phone calls when I'd already told her that I don't want to talk and need space in general.

Oh and uh, intimacy or lack thereof. There was one time when she literally insisted that she was waiting until marriage and five minutes later she's all over me again. This is a person whose body is telling her one thing and her religion is telling her something else. I can be patient with that up until a point but if I'm not getting a yes or no answer I am just letting her be disrespectful towards me. This came out verbally too. She one time asked me if she should get on birth control. Just a confused mess.

To be honest, I was kind of expecting an awkward, naive, 30 year old foreign woman when I started dating her. Not this. Complete and total spoiled brat who hates it when she doesn't get what she wants and tries to make you feel crazy when you express concern about her not communicating with you. Not only that, but there are unanswered questions I have that I've asked her numerous times already and she either refuses to answer or has a response that isn't really even an answer at all making me feel like I have no idea what is going on. She speaks very good English so that is a lousy excuse at best. She's a sweet talker and I think she believes that's enough to make me forget about shit she doesn't want to talk about. Worked at first but I eventually caught on to it. One of those situations where every time I left her apartment I'd just have this gut feeling that something wasn't right here. Felt that way since we met.

Anyway, I dumped her. Hopefully she goes away permanently.
 
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Wishful thinking.

It's funny because early on we were joking about how Americans don't take accountability and tend to be dishonest as a cultural standard. Ironic because I cannot think of a person who is less honest and less accountable for anything that I've met in recent memory haha. I think what she was really doing is testing to see if I was different, easier to control. *shudders*