Now neither one is perfect, the first one is a bit distant, but the second one is a bit muddy. But I think a deader room is preferred, and I'm going to try and hang some blankets n stuff up.
edit; I can imagine this is exactly the sort of thing a typical listener would listen and go "uh.. what? they sound exactly the same". They are more similar than I had thought. BUT, this is also a test without bleed (I can't exactly play the cymbals with a blanket covering myself and the snare drum), so I think it'd make a bigger difference when it comes to live tracks, which would explain why I can get great samples but not great live drums.