- Aug 18, 2002
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It has come to my attention that there is a lot of discussion and rumors about me going on and Im going to stop them. They werent made solely by one person, so this isnt an attack. Lets just straighten everything out.
First off, i left UM and the internet by choice. My wife didnt make me. Certain things that have happened put me off. People have acted inappropriately towards my family (not just on here) and I wasnt going to allow it to happen. Confronting people didnt work so I left. Thats why you dont see me and you wont see me again. Most of you are cool, some arent, and some took it to a level that is creepy and nearly criminal.
Now lets clear things up:
Im not racist, and anyone with a brain in their head and has actually been here for all the years that I have known this. And yes, my wife is a Jew. So are my stepson and daughter. If I had a real problem with Jews do you think I would have dated, married, and had children with one? No, use your common sense. And by the way, Chanukah was awesome.
Secondly, just because I flirted with someone doesnt mean I actually liked them. Whats closer to the truth is that they disgust me or I just dont care about them. Ive learned that some people took it seriously. The fact of the matter is I had no real interest in sleeping with anyone on UM, or on the internet in general, nor have i. some people would like to say otherwise, but its a delusion. People who have had the luxury of seeing my actions in person would know that I never actually treated a real person that way. Now did my comments online go too far, sure. I probably created their delusions but its time to move on. Let it go or get help. Ive never had a romantic attraction to anyone on here, Ive never slept with anyone on here, and Ive never dated anyone on here. Period.
Additionally, my wife has never tried to get me to stop listening to metal. As a matter of fact, even when I try to distance myself from the scene, she tries to push me back in. she fell in love with a metal head and she loves me for who I am. Maybe someday Ill follow her advice and come back to write for the site again, but who knows.
Another rumor that has spawned is that we got married because she was pregnant. This is not true either. We got married out of love and weeks before a pregnancy test was even purchased.
The only person I truly love, and have ever been in love with, is my wife (and our family of course). Ive dedicated my life to my family. My wife and I have two great kids, we own our house, we have shared hobbies (too include a lot of music) that we love doing together and despite the annoyance of some people we are genuinely happy. I dont want my life any other way.
Last main issue: I moved away. I quit kastigation almost a year ago and we left the area. We left for our own personal reasons and quite frankly its none of anyones business why we left and where we ended up. If you worked for the site or any of the labels I worked with in the past, or even if you got my address from somewhere else, I dont live there anymore, so dont bother sending anything there.
Smaller, less important, issues:
*I dont hate dogs, nor do I hate my wife for her dogs.
*If you were talking to me on AIM or another IM service in the last year, it wasnt me. I already know AIM was hacked and used by someone else, I dont know if the other accounts were hacked.
*I deleted my MySpace account for the same reason
*If youre trying to find me, dont bother. I dont want to be found. Ive asked my wife not to relay any messages from anyone. Ive asked kastigation to do that as well. If any of you try, they will be deleted.
*Please dont talk about issues that you arent involved in. thats how rumors get started. People like to fill in the details on their own when they dont know whats going on and it should just stop.
Ive met some cool people here and heard a lot of great music. Ive had a lot of great experiences because of the site (interviewing bands, MDF, etc.) but now its time for me to go. I just wanted to clear the air once and for all. If you hear anything else, its nothing more than rumor and shouldnt be treated as fact.
Now Andy, lock this up so we keep everything civil.
Ryan
First off, i left UM and the internet by choice. My wife didnt make me. Certain things that have happened put me off. People have acted inappropriately towards my family (not just on here) and I wasnt going to allow it to happen. Confronting people didnt work so I left. Thats why you dont see me and you wont see me again. Most of you are cool, some arent, and some took it to a level that is creepy and nearly criminal.
Now lets clear things up:
Im not racist, and anyone with a brain in their head and has actually been here for all the years that I have known this. And yes, my wife is a Jew. So are my stepson and daughter. If I had a real problem with Jews do you think I would have dated, married, and had children with one? No, use your common sense. And by the way, Chanukah was awesome.
Secondly, just because I flirted with someone doesnt mean I actually liked them. Whats closer to the truth is that they disgust me or I just dont care about them. Ive learned that some people took it seriously. The fact of the matter is I had no real interest in sleeping with anyone on UM, or on the internet in general, nor have i. some people would like to say otherwise, but its a delusion. People who have had the luxury of seeing my actions in person would know that I never actually treated a real person that way. Now did my comments online go too far, sure. I probably created their delusions but its time to move on. Let it go or get help. Ive never had a romantic attraction to anyone on here, Ive never slept with anyone on here, and Ive never dated anyone on here. Period.
Additionally, my wife has never tried to get me to stop listening to metal. As a matter of fact, even when I try to distance myself from the scene, she tries to push me back in. she fell in love with a metal head and she loves me for who I am. Maybe someday Ill follow her advice and come back to write for the site again, but who knows.
Another rumor that has spawned is that we got married because she was pregnant. This is not true either. We got married out of love and weeks before a pregnancy test was even purchased.
The only person I truly love, and have ever been in love with, is my wife (and our family of course). Ive dedicated my life to my family. My wife and I have two great kids, we own our house, we have shared hobbies (too include a lot of music) that we love doing together and despite the annoyance of some people we are genuinely happy. I dont want my life any other way.
Last main issue: I moved away. I quit kastigation almost a year ago and we left the area. We left for our own personal reasons and quite frankly its none of anyones business why we left and where we ended up. If you worked for the site or any of the labels I worked with in the past, or even if you got my address from somewhere else, I dont live there anymore, so dont bother sending anything there.
Smaller, less important, issues:
*I dont hate dogs, nor do I hate my wife for her dogs.
*If you were talking to me on AIM or another IM service in the last year, it wasnt me. I already know AIM was hacked and used by someone else, I dont know if the other accounts were hacked.
*I deleted my MySpace account for the same reason
*If youre trying to find me, dont bother. I dont want to be found. Ive asked my wife not to relay any messages from anyone. Ive asked kastigation to do that as well. If any of you try, they will be deleted.
*Please dont talk about issues that you arent involved in. thats how rumors get started. People like to fill in the details on their own when they dont know whats going on and it should just stop.
Ive met some cool people here and heard a lot of great music. Ive had a lot of great experiences because of the site (interviewing bands, MDF, etc.) but now its time for me to go. I just wanted to clear the air once and for all. If you hear anything else, its nothing more than rumor and shouldnt be treated as fact.
Now Andy, lock this up so we keep everything civil.
Ryan
