i think that it's never too late to learn consideration. when i say something mean, i do so because i WANT to hurt the other person, unless specifically stated in the form of smilies, "j/k", my post being on a joke thread, or my post being addressed to someone i know well and who knows me well enough to know i'm not serious. i try to avoid being mean to people i don't know if i don't want to hurt them. most of you don't realize that if you throw around comments like "you are diseased" for fun the odds are that you are talking to people who actually are and might not want to hear your crap, and not even want to tell everyone about their health or mental conditions. it's like those silly people who belittle others because they don't like too much physical contact (hugging, backslapping etc) saying stuff like "you're icy and antisocial" until it turns out that the person trying to avoid contact is a rape victim.