totally ot wrt work, but:
on saturday night i attended a party and of course there just had to be a late-night discussion on relationships. someone (a woman someone) claimed that there is such a person as 'the love of one's life', which i countered on grounds of mere common sense, starting from their probability to be chinese or indian.
now, aside from jokes, i do tend to dismiss the notion of 'soulmate' as excessively soppy, eventhough in other matters i am quite the romantic. i have believed the idea for quite a while, but then came to the conclusion that probably there are a few people - and i'm not talking about in the whole wide world, i'm talking about 'in your circle of friends/colleagues/acquaintances' etc with whom a relationship could be started and, with the correct amount of attention and dedication, continued.
on further reflection, i figured out that i had been implicitly basing my reasoning on the idea that after all we are attracted (also in a non-physical sense) to several people, and once attraction is there then relationships are mostly a question of being sensible.
only it might not really be true, in the sense that there are situations in which impressions are just different, and even if you - like me - stubbornly refuse the cartoonish idea of 'teh 1' it is still unlikely to win the probability game, as in 'wow, this guy/girl really fits well with me', twice or thrice or seven times in a row. which brings us back to the idea of 'teh 1', even if it's based on heuristics rather than theory.
i just don't know, really. any opinions?
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