Well inasmuch as I"m a hetero-guy, this topic doesn't hold much interest for me, but what's interesting anyway is the number of female Opethians- the only other message board i've frequented (though I never go there anymore) is the one at the official In Flames site, which is a place, it seems, dominated by teenagers, few adults here and there, and a few females here and there.
I'm pretty much a newbie at metal music, but is it true, as it appears, that Opeth is the most "female-friendly" death/black metal band? Their music seems to garner the most female attention, and if this is so, what does this mean about the music, and if it means anything about the music, what does it mean in this newer light to guys?
Some guys are really insecure about their virility for which reason effiminacy is sometimes stigmatized- this applies to a lot of things for guys, including musical taste. I've once heard Opeth music described as "gay" which makes me chuckle a little at how silly others can be. Anyway......