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Krilons Resa
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The fuck guys?!
You don't remember how you got your children to go to bed on their own and sleep throughout the night and at approximately what age?
Lurch, I recall you saying that your daughter was sleeping with you and the missus the past week. What led to that?
This whole sleep business is starting to plague my consciousness lately and I'm afraid it will until it is, partly at least, remedied.
My only concern with the Ferber Method is if it messes with the child's psychological well being at some minute, deeply engrained level. Learned helplessness perhaps. But I'm sure that is remedied by the timely checking-in on the child to reassure that you are still there but the cries won't garner unneeded parental soothing. Behavior adjustment by teaching to self soothe; a valuable tool worthy of the long term. Also, surely it depends on the child. This shit probably wouldn't go over well with my nephew, especially at this point. His learned behavior is beyond this point by now.
Oh, parenting.
The fuck guys?!
You don't remember how you got your children to go to bed on their own and sleep throughout the night and at approximately what age?
Lurch, I recall you saying that your daughter was sleeping with you and the missus the past week. What led to that?
This whole sleep business is starting to plague my consciousness lately and I'm afraid it will until it is, partly at least, remedied.
My only concern with the Ferber Method is if it messes with the child's psychological well being at some minute, deeply engrained level. Learned helplessness perhaps. But I'm sure that is remedied by the timely checking-in on the child to reassure that you are still there but the cries won't garner unneeded parental soothing. Behavior adjustment by teaching to self soothe; a valuable tool worthy of the long term. Also, surely it depends on the child. This shit probably wouldn't go over well with my nephew, especially at this point. His learned behavior is beyond this point by now.
Oh, parenting.
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hahahahaha
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not really. During the twos sometime. The transition from crib to bed was very difficult for both our kids.
We babysat our nephew (her sister's child) last night and it was hell on earth. My 6-mointh old sleeps better than him at 2+ years old. He cant go to sleep alone yet and has trouble sleeping by himself period. Insane seperation anxiety and has nothing to do with a pacifier. It sure gave me perspective.
there is some book for brutal sleep teaching techniques out there that I browsed through. I can fidn out the title for you. it has a lot to do with letting them freak out and cry until the brink of not being able to breathe ... and only then tending to them.
if you are a masochist it might work for you
our daughter sleeps fine now ... she is slowly transitioning to her own bed.
problem is we have one bedroom for now and she is still in our room ...
i am making her area really comfortable "looking" now so she wants to sleep there.
you see what I mean ... i just read above fro this Ferber method ... that's the one I was referring to.
supposedly it can take as long as 2 weeks for this new thing to work ... so you have to deal with that chaos of crying themselves to sleep.
it depends on your personality of course as well.
as far as things being ingrained in their psyche ... i don't think that's a concern for the long term.
supposedly it can take as long as 2 weeks for this new thing to work ... so you have to deal with that chaos of crying themselves to sleep.
it depends on your personality of course as well.
as far as things being ingrained in their psyche ... i don't think that's a concern for the long term.
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If ever there was an impetus for moving out of NY, this would be it.
I heard Nashville is pretty nice
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Because of its relatively low cost of living and large job market, Nashville has become a popular city for immigrants.[41] Nashville's foreign-born population more than tripled in size between 1990 and 2000, increasing from 12,662 to 39,596. Large groups of Mexicans, Kurds,[42] Vietnamese, Laotians, Cambodians, Arabs, and Bantus call Nashville home, among other groups.[43] Nashville has the largest Kurdish community in the United States, numbering approximately 11,000.[44] About 60,000 Bhutanese refugees are being admitted to the U.S. and some of them will resettle in Nashville.[45] During the Iraqi election of 2005, Nashville was one of the few international locations where Iraqi expatriates could vote.[46] The American Jewish community in Nashville dates back over 150 years, and numbered about 6,500 in 2001.[47][48]
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Hell Mike
fuck melodic black metal
Stop fucking overanalyzing. Babies can't read and don't know shit about psychologists' methods and crap like that so go with whatever works. That's a tip for everything, not just the sleep issue.RC = Recollection Consigned to oblivion
The fuck guys?!
You don't remember how you got your children to go to bed on their own and sleep throughout the night and at approximately what age?
Lurch, I recall you saying that your daughter was sleeping with you and the missus the past week. What led to that?
This whole sleep business is starting to plague my consciousness lately and I'm afraid it will until it is, partly at least, remedied.
My only concern with the Ferber Method is if it messes with the child's psychological well being at some minute, deeply engrained level. Learned helplessness perhaps. But I'm sure that is remedied by the timely checking-in on the child to reassure that you are still there but the cries won't garner unneeded parental soothing. Behavior adjustment by teaching to self soothe; a valuable tool worthy of the long term. Also, surely it depends on the child. This shit probably wouldn't go over well with my nephew, especially at this point. His learned behavior is beyond this point by now.
Oh, parenting.
The pacifier is the best invention ever, just make sure you always have one handy. Dis still uses hers (and she'll be three soon) but throws it away whenever someone not in our family approaches, haha. I suppose it's about time to take it away from her but what the hell, we scream at eachother enough as it is so if we can postpone one reason for a while then it's all good.
Dis sleeps in her own bed in her own room and has since ??? (Long time anyway, 1½ years old maybe?). Norna sleeps in a crib in our room but will move out soonish when we all move our bedrooms upstairs. Moving Dis to her own bed and room was easy, but both kids sleep in our bed every now and then but mostly just for the latter part of the night. Two kids, two adults and a homicidal cat in one bed makes for crappy sleep, I'll tell you that much.
Mostly we sit with one kid each until they fall asleep, Norna won't lie still unless I use 100% of my musclepower to hold her down until she falls asleep so I read or play wordfeud while waiting. Dis holds hands with a vicelike grip and failed tries to escape when she's on the verge of falling asleep can set you back to square one which sux. It's possible (but not comfortable) to squeeze into her bed and lie there though which 99% of the times result in me falling asleep until Johanna thinks that it shouldn't take this long and comes to wake me up.
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the kids do not get in our bed. We nipped that in the bud immediately. I don't understand you folks who have cats, dogs, kids, and shit sleeping your bed. Fuck that.
However....our kids do get up at 0600 on average. That's why I about went completely insane when I worked an 1100-2300 shift. I'd get to bed at 0100 and the kids would be waking me up 5 hours later.
But, yeah, the sleeping through the night thing....seems dependent on personality. You either win or lose. Just live with it. If the little monkey wakes up a million times a night, you're just gonna have to trade-off responsibility with your partner. One of ya might sleep on the couch on the other end of the house, that sort of thing. It can't last forever.
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Like lurch, I can't for the life of me remember the title but a book came out about a year ago about how hard it is to actually fuck up a kid. The authors main point was that parents need to stop worrying so damned much about every little thing.
Krilons Resa
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