FUCKING JÄGERMESITER HELL YEAH.

[lurch70]

hmm that sucks Jason ... there is nothing more unatractive than a waaay too drunk woman.

 

[Hell Mike]

the last time I did shots of jaeger interspersed with stuttgarter hoffbrau and I got heinously sick. I can't even smell it to this day and not feel queasy.

I react supermegadrunk+hellvömiting so they better like that as well

 

[Dark One]

hmm that sucks Jason ... there is nothing more unatractive than a waaay too drunk woman.

It's definitely not cool on so many levels. She says things that are meant to truly hurt me (even if they're not true) while in this state, and then never remembers saying them later - even going so far as to getting mad at me saying that I'm making these things up as a way to try and place blame on her for our problems. It's terrible.

Even when she's in a good mood in this state (which is probably like 20-30% of the time), I can't have a conversation with her. Getting out of this thing is going to be exceedingly difficult (she sold her house and moved into my house back in May) - but I think it's a decision that has to be made sooner rather than later.

 

[General Zod]

She can go through a weekend drinking two large bottles of Jägermeister, and drinks at least one whole bottle during the week. It's not like we have the perfect relationship outside of this or anything, but I simply can't live like this with her much longer.

Life is way too short to spend it unhappy. I hope you two figure it out, sooner rather than later.

Zod

 

[Dark One]

Life is way too short to spend it unhappy.

If you have the ability to make changes (however difficult they may be) to take away what's making you unhappy, I wholeheartedly agree. I'm pretty sure it's time to make those changes.

 

[lurch70]

It's definitely not cool on so many levels. She says things that are meant to truly hurt me (even if they're not true) while in this state, and then never remembers saying them later - even going so far as to getting mad at me saying that I'm making these things up as a way to try and place blame on her for our problems. It's terrible.

Even when she's in a good mood in this state (which is probably like 20-30% of the time), I can't have a conversation with her. Getting out of this thing is going to be exceedingly difficult (she sold her house and moved into my house back in May) - but I think it's a decision that has to be made sooner rather than later.

i can imagine ... well if she sold her house, she must be ok financially, so it would be easier to start fresh.

you guys met my current girlfriend, she likes to drink also, not binge drinking, ... but she is from Ohio, where it's a pastime it seems ... and while I drink as well when I go out, ... it still totally turns me off when a chick is drunk and beligerent.

9 years is a long time and hard to start over, but if you don't see anything bright in your future ... you know what you have to do.
I just met my gf 4 months ago, and not so sure if we are going down the same path either.

 

[Hell Mike]

To kill all the serious shit that's popping up I shall take this opportunity to recommend the (original?) king of all drunk threads [this is where I'd post a link IF THERE WAS A SEARCH FUNCTION], a thread known for its great hilarity and bad spelling!

 

[General Zod]

you guys met my current girlfriend, she likes to drink also, not binge drinking, ... but she is from Ohio, where it's a pastime it seems ... and while I drink as well when I go out, ... it still totally turns me off when a chick is drunk and beligerent.

Yes, your girlfriend seems like a real cool chick. My wife is also a drinker. However, she's always a fun drunk, so I don't mind when she drinks. However, if it became a habit or if she got sloppy drunk, it would be an issue.

Zod

 

[Dark One]

i can imagine ... well if she sold her house, she must be ok financially, so it would be easier to start fresh.

Think again - she quit her job about 3 weeks ago.

and while I drink as well when I go out, ... it still totally turns me off when a chick is drunk and beligerent.

Yep, and that's almost always how it is with her.

9 years is a long time and hard to start over, but if you don't see anything bright in your future ... you know what you have to do.

Definitely. See, the thing is she never used to drink at all in the first six years of our relationship, that's why this situation is so difficult to grasp because it's all new to me and I'm just now truly understanding how hard it can make things. She used to do a lot of weed before, but could totally handle it and I had no problem with it - but she since stopped that and moved on to the bottle. I think it's very much a symptom of an addictive personality.

I've tried very hard to adjust these last few months and support her but she won't admit she has a problem. Complete denial. Meanwhile, she's promised that she can quit several times and stated that she has, only for me to come home to her obviously altered state, followed by the dreaded discovery of the bottle hidden in various places.

I just met my gf 4 months ago, and not so sure if we are going down the same path either.

Man, I hope that doesn't end up being the case for you or anything, but at the very least you have plenty of time to realize whether or not this will be a contiuous long term issue early in the relationship. With us, we have so much established history, and so many wonderful memories and things that only we've shared with each other, that our attachment to each other is very hard to break. She definitely means more to me than anyone else I've ever met.

 

[Dark One]

Dude are you serious? That's fucked, it's not like Jäger actually contains any addictive substances apart from the usual alcohol as far as I know... Anyhoo pretty sure this is a symptom of some other problem rather than the actual problem itself... People don't just start drinking that much for no reason?

Agreed - I also feel the problem goes much deeper than the drink itself.

 

[Dark One]

Yes, your girlfriend seems like a real cool chick. My wife is also a drinker. However, she's always a fun drunk, so I don't mind when she drinks.

That's definely very cool. I'm glad you guys have such a good thing going as she's a lot of fun to hang out with.

However, if it became a habit or if she got sloppy drunk, it would be an issue.

Believe me, you are correct in your assessment.

 

[Night Mare]

Nothing is worse than a girlfriend you can't get drunk with, usually because you're too busy holding their hair back. The first time my ex got drunk I had to catch her as she ran off the edge of a balcony, stop her putting a plastic bag over her head, grab her before she went swimming fully clothed in a canal, convince her that drinking vanilla essence is not a "good drunk" and confiscate all the sharp objects around her after she tried to put a safety pin through her tongue.

Apart from that it was a fun night.

 

[lurch70]

Agreed - I also feel the problem goes much deeper than the drink itself.

it always is ... any addictive substance is used to mask other issues ...
none of these are evident when one is young ... but later on in life they surface.

like for example, I don't drink when i am alone but socially i kick back ...
family history has a lot to do with it also ... nobody is really a big drinker in mine.

 

[lizard]

none of these are evident when one is young ... but later on in life they surface.

so true. I've known two people now who have been relatively stable until something minor happens and it's like they ran into a wall; both had to spend time in the locked-down OSU hospital mental ward, and it all went back to both of them being sexually abused as children.

that's why...fucking pedophiles should all be shot.

 

[Dark One]

so true. I've known two people now who have been relatively stable until something minor happens and it's like they ran into a wall; both had to spend time in the locked-down OSU hospital mental ward, and it all went back to both of them being sexually abused as children.

that's why...fucking pedophiles should all be shot.

Oh man, that's wicked horrible.

 

[Dark One]

Nothing is worse than a girlfriend you can't get drunk with, usually because you're too busy holding their hair back. The first time my ex got drunk I had to catch her as she ran off the edge of a balcony, stop her putting a plastic bag over her head, grab her before she went swimming fully clothed in a canal, convince her that drinking vanilla essence is not a "good drunk" and confiscate all the sharp objects around her after she tried to put a safety pin through her tongue.

The only quote/unquote "good thing" about it (if you can call it that), is that she never goes out, so I only have to look out for her at home, and I also don't have to bear the embarrasment of her antics in public. That said, aside from what I tell people, no one else can relate to what I'm saying except for her son, who is really an innocent victim in all of this.

 

[lizard]

even just to visit them, you had to ring a bell, get visually screened through a thick glass window, show an ID, and then two or three orderlies would let you in the door to preclude any of the "patients/inmates" from getting out.

all over the ward the patients were wandering around, some seemingly fine, others obviously not all there...

very surreal, kinda scary, and a very real reminder that sometimes many of us are just a hair's breath from crossing that line...

 

[Dark One]

like for example, I don't drink when i am alone but socially i kick back ... family history has a lot to do with it also ... nobody is really a big drinker in mine.

I never used to drink alone at all, lately I have been for obvious reasons... though it still isn't usually more than like 3 beers at a time.

 

[NAD]

jason, that really sucks. i'm just curious, does she drink jag straight, or do one of those party drinks like mixed with redbull? that would make a lot more sense with the whole addiction thing, unless she really is in alcoholic. best of luck with that man.

hmm that sucks Jason ... there is nothing more unatractive than a waaay too drunk woman.

only because they are no longer interested in sex at that point. nah i know what you mean, it's pretty gross when a girl gets all courtney love.

confiscate all the sharp objects around her

my last long term girlfriend used to be a ridiculously playful drunk, which meant even my friends knew when to remove all the knives from the table because she'd start trying to poke her fingers and other things. she'd also lose all sense of recognition, she once started walking up to everyone she knew asking WHO ARE YOU!?!? before wandering back to me and trying to take my clothes off in public. it was really funny because it would only happen a few times a year. the other few times a year when she'd get tossed she'd cry. i lost track of her one night at a party because we both were hosed beyond belief, finally tracked her down sleeping in the back of my truck. when i told her it was cold and she needed to come inside she collapsed in the driveway and started sobbing. that meant a few hours of talking to her and telling her everything was okay. also no sex and dealing with a 14-hour hungover girlfriend the next day.

 

[lizard]

The only quote/unquote "good thing" about it (if you can call it that), is that she never goes out, so I only have to look out for her at home, and I also don't have to bear the embarrasment of her antics in public. That said, aside from what I tell people, no one else can relate to what I'm saying except for her son, who is really an innocent victim in all of this.

this is all so true. to get someone help is almost like narcing on them; and you can't just talk to everyone about it because if you care about them you care about how others perceive them...and when its an abusive female, you can't easily talk about it either because the guy is supposed to be all macho and shit, and what kinda man lets a woman get lippy and abusive with him