Girlfriend/Roommate Issue

Einherjar86

Einherjar86

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I usually don't make posts like this, but I have a serious question that I would like to ask the majority here:

My girlfriend was recently kicked out of her apartment (house, actually) by her roommate. A few weeks ago, they got into a fight, and my girlfriend said some things she probably shouldn't have; however, she immediately apologized and began crying over the things she had said. The two of them left the conversation somewhat amicably, and decided that they would discuss it further at a later time.

A few days pass, and without any warning, my girlfriend's roommate says that she wants my girlfriend gone by June 30th, which is when my girlfriend's lease is up. Originally, the two of them had agreed that she could stay two months extra because she can't move into her new place until August. Now that she has to move (because of her lease deadline) it's going to cost her $600 dollars in moving and sub-letting costs. She was going to pay for the two extra months that she stayed, including electricity, water, cable, etc.

This is seriously beginning to take a toll on me, because none of our friends are taking a decisive side in the matter. I realize that it's unfair to ask of them, but none of them have even told my girlfriend that they're sorry about what happened. I also realize that I'm biased in this matter, but I'm as equally upset as she is, because the truth is: her roommate has no job, gets money because her father passed away (which I sympathize with), and is also raising the rent on the new people that are moving in because she can't afford the house. My girlfriend works two jobs, is taking summer classes, and her parents recently had to pay to put her brother through cancer treatment. I seriously feel that she got the short end of the stick in all this, and I feel that our friends aren't willing to admit that her roommate was in the wrong in doing what she did.

I'm sorry for this long, rambling post, but I just wanted some feedback on this matter to see what the majority of people here think. If anyone wants me to elaborate further on the matter, I can do so. It was a rough night tonight (my girlfriend has trouble being anywhere that her roommate is; we share the same friends, you see), and just had to vent. So again, I apologize, but I would appreciate the input of some of the people on this forum.
 
There's not much you can do. The best YOU can do is to talk to these people for her since it's not working when she does. Don't get all pissed or violent, that negates the purpose. Then support her. Do you have money to help?

EDIT: Option 2: Kill those people.

Option 3: Kill her.

Otherwise I don't have much to give ya.
 
give the roommate surprise buttsecks

jk

have gf move w/ you?
 
So the bottom line it seems to me is that the roommate wants her out because she needs more money to stay in the place. Sounds like a shitty situation but when you've got money problems, it amplifies any other problems, not to mention putting you into a corner.
Being (almost) in a similar situation I understand, but at the same time I just pinched pennies and didn't kick my friend out.....
 
Thanks for the responses guys.

My girlfriend actually doesn't have a problem with finding a new place; she already found another possibility (a friend of hers offered to let her sublet her place). The problem is that it's a serious increase in her rent (especially since she's just subletting another place for two months; they're charging her fees and an extra half-month's rent just because she's subletting). I unfortunately live in a small, shitty college apartment, and my room isn't big enough for the both of us (with all her things and such). She could move into another unit in my place, but that would be just as expensive as what she's already doing, because she would have to sublet. Also, our parents aren't fond of the thought of moving in together. We both pay out-of-state tuition, and our parents help us out with living costs because of how expensive it is.

Dakryn said:
So the bottom line it seems to me is that the roommate wants her out because she needs more money to stay in the place. Sounds like a shitty situation but when you've got money problems, it amplifies any other problems, not to mention putting you into a corner.
Being (almost) in a similar situation I understand, but at the same time I just pinched pennies and didn't kick my friend out.....
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Exactly, she is in a tight situation for money. However, what she (as well as our friends, apparently) doesn't realize is that she's inadvertently putting my girlfriend in a tight money situation that she may not be able to afford.

It's not a living problem at this moment; the real stress of the matter is that no one seems to realize what a big deal this is. We went to party some of our friends threw last night, and no one acknowldeged that anything happened. My girlfriend's roommate shows up and everyone acts normal, when in truth something serious happened that's put my girlfriend in a difficult financial situation.

We're both just a bit upset that no one seems to be acknowledging this, and I'm wondering if I have the right to talk to them about it, or if it's unfair to try and put them in the middle (which was my initial reaction, but now after speaking with my girlfriend about it, it just doesn't seem fair).
 
have her put her stuff in storage and sleep in your bed for two months.

or give her your bed entirely and sleep on the floor or couch
 
I appreciate the living suggestions guys; we're still working it out. We're just uncomfortable with possibly living together. Her parents are very against her moving in with me.

I wonder if I'm just being stubborn about this; is it unreasonable to expect our friends to take sides in the matter? I honestly feel that my girlfriend deserves a bit of recognition for what she's going through. I could just be biased in this whole thing, but I've been incredibly frustrated about this whole thing since it happened. I feel that something unjustified was done to my girlfriend but no one sees that.
 
I would assume most people don't want to get involved in a matter that doesn't involve them. I would have to be very good friends with someone to put my 2 cents into a situation like that when it's all friends involved, or be the "center" of the group.

When people start taking sides it can really blow the whole thing up and ruin friendships all the way around, especially when money gets involved.
 
@Unknown: yes, they know; but I don't think they know all the details, and I'm not sure it's my place to tell them.

@Dak: what you said basically sums up the reservations I have about the situation. I also think it's unfair to involve them in this, I just had to vent a bit. I wish that some of them would at least admit that they feel sorry about what happened, but everyone just acts like nothing did. I completely understand why they're acting that way, I just wish someone would say something.

Thanks again for the responses guys. I suppose I probably should have just included this in the "Whining and Bitching Thread" rather than make my own, but I was a bit drunk last night and just had to vent.
 
unknown said:
have her put her stuff in storage and sleep in your bed for two months.

or give her your bed entirely and sleep on the floor or couch
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This is probably your best option.

Quite frankly, I'm pretty sure that you're both adults, and I'd wager that she's capable of convincing her parents to at least begrudgingly accept and appreciate what you're doing for her and her financial situation by allowing her to stay with you due to lack of any better alternative.
 
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