Ok, I'll admit, I like a lot of hardcore. I like bands like AFI, Converge, H2O, Dillinger Escape Plan, Atreyu, From Autumn to Ashes, Eighteen Visions, Everytime I Die, Dead to Fall, As I Lay Dying, some Zao, some Earth Crisis, Killswitch Engage, Blood Has Been Shed, Nora, Underoath, Unearth, Locked in a Vacancy, etc. etc. etc. I also live in Philadelphia, which is a very odd city, seeing as how, for the most part, the hardcorekids and metalheads get along great. I was talking to one of the guys from Unearth after they played with In Flames and the guy was amazed at how there were absolutely no fights at all during the show. Not one. and that wasn't an isolated incident either. I'll go to a metal show and see a lot of Unearth or Earth Crisis shirts, and then I'll go to a hardcore show and see about 20% Nile t-shirts. I guess Philly is the exception, and not the rule. And when it comes to pits, I follow the basic rule of "When in Rome..." If I'm at a metal show, I'm more likely to be up front headbanging and singing along. If I'm at a hardcore show, I'm most likely in the pit, swinging away. It's as much a release as classic "moshing" And I've been kicked and punched in the face and chest numerous times, and the guy who did it always turns and says he's sorry before he goes back in there. Even if I'm wearing a Nile or Arch Enemy shirt
. Like I said, Philly is probably the exception and not the rule from what I've been reading, but from talking to people in the harcore scene, especially bands, I can imagine any violence and hostility between hardcore kids and metalheads to be about equally each others fault. Of course I could be wrong.