look, i really just want to watch
boys don't cry now, see how responsible i am.
anyway. i think i've mentioned elsewhere, and i think it's kinda obvious from the fact that, of late, i hardly ever post anything, that my feelings towards online boards have changed. please note i said "online boards". not "the dark tranquillity forum community of happy campers".
i don't even blame online boards for disappointing me or not being up to my oh-so-1337 standards. the problem is mine. it used to be fun, it used to be interesting to speak my mind and debate endlessly. now it's just not, and i
do notice that - aside from the lack of time - i hear myself repeating the same idiotic bullshit (there you have it! some bullshit! finally!) over and over, and in the end it's pretty pointless, or so it seems to me. when it's lost in a melting pot of pictures of somebody's pets, other people misspelling dark tranquillity for the upteenth time, thorough reports of what a n00b has had for dinner... it's not what i want to
do with my free time.
see, i don't even write long emails anymore. i just can't. i need someone to be sitting in front of me, so i can talk, and dedicate a couple more braincells to the actual thinking process without having to distract them from pushing the right shift key really really hard because since i cleaned my keyboard removing every key, it just doesn't work as smoothly as before.
i'm not blaming anybody. even though most people's posts on this thread (hell, on
every thread)
are repetitions or tongue-in-cheek jokes with lots of tongue and very little cheek. please, do not dismiss these observations as either malevolent or smartass-y: we're all mostly irrelevant and lighthearted and vague in our daily chatting, and i'm even guiltier than most of you, as sometimes i can't even find the words to say something really important to people who need it and deserve it (sorry, hyena, for my sloppy attempt at an email). but i do look for this kind of additional meaning in the things that i want to read (and write, although it's presumptuous to think that i can), and i don't find it on forums online.
"big deal", some of you might say, a smirk of smug savviness on your faces, unless i just made up all those s-words. but you have to remember that i spend a lot of time online, i read a lot of messages, and the nausea effect
can be stronger in me than in some of you, who might - for instance - be starting to interact with "a public" just now. i still read every damn post on this board. and no, moderating is not the cause of my illness: i don't
need to read your questions&answers more than once every fifty replies, as it is dramatically unlikely that someone will try and smuggle midget porn in one of their messages.
yet i don't think i'm unfit to be the moderator, and - forgive me - i do resent a little bit that i was "provoked" into putting my role to question today. i think it was a little insensitive, considering what you know about me. those of you (and, del, i'm just using the generic plural because it's faster. i appreciate your support
a lot) who haven't benefited from my being so active in terms of band/fans relationships, are simply still out of touch because of geographic reasons. if i hated everyone so much, or if i was so cynical about the fanbase, why in the world would i have driven myself to the end of my rope to drag about 20 people to a club in helsinki last summer, so that they could hang out with their favourite musicians? i still personally ask niklas to put fans who contact me on the guest list at shows i attend to, even when i don't really know if they're gonna show up with a pen or a knife. i reply to private messages with questions concerning the band in a matter of hours. daily.
should i step aside because i consider online forums to be something i don't take pleasure in? no. niklas and the rest of the guys are my
friends, and i support what they are and their music in any way i can. and you can use someone to stick the unsticky bits and unstick the sticky bits, or get rid of those pesky "MY BNAD AS JUSST RELESAED A DEMOTEIP!!! CHECK IT OUT AT WWW.ALINKTOAVIAGRASITE.ORG", on top of all the rest.
in exchange, please try and tolerate the occasional spell of gloominess without taking it to the extreme. of course there
are a few people here whom i think are full of shit, but i do know my boundaries and i strive to avoid anything that - coming from a mod - might be considered harassment. i have nothing at all against the rest of you, and i actually do call a few of you my friends.