Males and Females

[zabu of nΩd]

How did you meet her? What were you planning to do together?

 

[King Richard]

tl;dr: I got this older chicks number after convincing her.

Alright so I decided to make another OkC account. I've had it up for about almost five days now and I've already received 10x as many responses than I did in two months the last time. Kind of weird actually. Not so surprisingly, every single chick I tried contacting last time (a year ago) are still on this motherfucker and are single. I messaged them all again just for shits. We'll see if they decided to stop being so goddamn picky about stupid shit.

Anyway, that Indian chick I posted the other day I met through OkC. We're still talking. Yesterday I started talking to this half-Korean chick and she seems very interested. I already got her phone number and plan on calling her later. I'm interested to hear what you guys think. Here's a pic:

Now, here's the interesting part. She's 7 years older than me. I don't think it's an issue at all, but she apparently did. Here's a few message exchanges on OkC and showing how I lured her in. This shit is good haha.

Her (in response to my initial message):
I would be lying if the 7 year age gap (I'm about to be 34) didn't bother me. That and while I'm not monogamous, I think things might be getting serious with someone I've been talking to. I dig your profile and you seem like a cutie pie but I have to politely decline.

PS: You should get a pic of you close up. You seem like a good looking guy.

My response:
Hey no problems, I respect the honesty even though I disagree. I'm glad you had the common courtesy to at least respond and express your opinion. Good luck with your relationship(s). And thanks for the advice, will do.

Her:
Out of curiosity, what do you disagree with?

Me:
I don't think the age difference is a big deal.

Her:
Are you ready to get settled down right now, marry and have kids?

Me:
Only if we do it in Vegas.
Just kidding obviously. If I find the right person, yes.

Her:
Of course you were kidding. I hadn't asked you.
That's surprising at your age. I don't know many 27 year olds that are ready to settle down.

(insert a few back and forths about maturity and meeting the right person and whatnot)

Now cutting to the end, this is her last message to me on the chat thing after we talked for about an hour:

Her:
I'm going to wander off for a while. Need to get some things done. Mainly refreshing the purple in my hair. I spotted some blonde hairs. Oh noez!
I will say I'm interested in getting to know you more so feel free to shoot me an e-mail or call me at (insert her #).

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Now, I posted this to prove a couple points, not necessarily to brag.

1) Over-analyzing shit is a waste of time. I knew from the get go she was feeding me BS about her talking to some other dude because she was hesitant on the age difference. I can understand the hesitation, but I didn't accept her false front. I talked to her in our chat about it and she admitted to me that she just used it as an excuse to "let me down softly." I told her I knew that and understood, but I wasn't going to let it keep me from talking to her.

2) Persistence and confidence pays off, like I've been saying for a long time around here. I had nothing to lose and by using my awesome communication and mack skeelz I got her #.

 

[Dak]

DO NOT WANT

 

[King Richard]

Afraid of the yellow fever breh?

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Good work Rick. Interesting to see how that conv played out. As far as her looks - i'd hit it.

What do you mean by "over-analyzing shit is a waste of time" though? You clearly did some reading between the lines on what she was saying, which means you were analyzing her statements. You just happened to draw the correct conclusions from it since you know your shit.

 

[King Richard]

Good work Rick. Interesting to see how that conv played out.

What do you mean by "over-analyzing shit is a waste of time" though? You clearly did some reading between the lines on what she was saying, which means you were analyzing her statements. You just happened to draw the correct conclusions from it since you know your shit.

I guess I would have needed to post more of the messages for that to make more sense. I just meant in general that if you aren't able to recognize and/or understand it at face value it's not worth your time. Like in this case, I knew right from the starting she was bsing me, so I pursued it anyway and stuck to my guns. Instead of hinting coyly about whether or not she's actually seeing someone else, I just straight up asked her and told her I thought she was lying to me. I could have hesitated and thought about it, or played it cool and never found out the truth which would have perpetuated my curiosity about the situation which would have never lead me to get her number.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Yeah, but how is someone who just "doesn't get it" going to know when they're overanalyzing something like that? It's kind of like telling a single mormon they're overanalyzing their sexual frustration because they assume they're "having sinful thoughts" instead of just recognizing the obvious that they need to get laid first and worry about marriage later. In other words, how do you fix stupid?

 

[King Richard]

Well, when it comes to relationships or trying to hook up you just have to stop caring so much. Care about your looks, improving yourself, care about all those kinds of things. But you need to stop caring about rejection, pleasing everyone, not pursuing what you want, worrying about what this and that. Until you hear the words "I'm not interested" you should be engaged and upfront about what you're thinking. And if you don't understand what they mean or how they're feeling, just ask. What's so hard about that?

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Well, for some people (like obviously me) there are aspects of the Game that are pretty uncomfortable and can feel like a massive amount of bullshit to deal with. There's obviously a lot of timing, patience and thinking on your feet involved with trying to hook up, it's not just a matter of being "upfront". You can't walk up to a girl and be like "Excuse me, but I find myself attracted to you, and I would like to consider you for a sexual relationship. Could we dialogue this out for a while and try to reach a decision together on whether this is in our mutual interest?" Personally i find all the subterfuge and putting on a good mating dance to be a lot of work, and i lose patience and energy rather quickly.

 

[King Richard]

Yeah well, your opinion on love and relationships is a little strange too though. Maybe you should re-evaluate what you really want, a fuck buddy or a woman. If you just want to fuck go get a escort like aug.

Btw, I forgot to mention the best part about that chick I posted earlier:

Once you're intimate, how often would you and your significant other have sex?

Every day
Every day
Every day
Every day
Every day
Every day
Every day

...
Fuck and yes. Although I must admit, this is about the fifth chick I've seen who's answered that question the same. I've never known many chicks who want to fuck everyday. But if this is somehow true, man o' man this is going to be interesting.

 

[King Richard]

Also, how is it every fucking profile I look the person has graduated college or is going back to grad school and has traveled to the moon and back?

 

[Dak]

Take care of yourself (self-improvement) and the rest generally takes care of itself. This approach has worked well for me.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Yeah well, your opinion on love and relationships is a little strange too though.

What do you mean by that?

Maybe you should re-evaluate what you really want, a fuck buddy or a woman. If you just want to fuck go get a escort like aug.

I'm pretty sure i need some kind of ongoing/reliable female companionship in my life, and i certainly don't want to spend a shitton of money doing it (unless there's some really good argument that fucking a prostitute would be worth the price for me, i.e. getting practice touching girls in a "safe" environment that i could later apply at bars/parties when trying to flirt), so i think i'm stuck in the Game for now.

 

[Vossyrus]

unless there's some really good argument that fucking a prostitute would be worth the price for me

Free STDs with every purchase? And, if it satisfies your curiosity, the benefit of knowing what the last pack of wieners tasted like?

 

[Vimana]

Aug needs to stop putting the pussy on a pedestal.

He'll be "The 40-year-old Virgin to Mutually Good Sex."

 

[Zephyrus]

Zephyress

 

[Xorv]

What do you mean by that?

I'm pretty sure i need some kind of ongoing/reliable female companionship in my life, and i certainly don't want to spend a shitton of money doing it (unless there's some really good argument that fucking a prostitute would be worth the price for me, i.e. getting practice touching girls in a "safe" environment that i could later apply at bars/parties when trying to flirt), so i think i'm stuck in the Game for now.

ok look, u have to get out of your comfort zone to get anywhere with women. Forget the prostitutes and just head over to a bar/club and start opening up conversations with women. It's not that hard it's just a matter of saying hello how you doing/what u up to/whatever and if she shows disinterest forget about her and move on.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Yeah i just need practice making some moves and seeing how different chicks respond. I went out last night and talked to a couple girls, i'm doing it again tonight. Trying to get back into the habit of being out at night on weekends.

 

[Dak]

Generally speaking, you are going to have more luck meeting girls like yourself hanging out at venues, whether IRL or on the internet, where you like to be anyway.

Unless you just want some desperate skank pussy.

 

[waif]

Btw, I forgot to mention the best part about that chick I posted earlier:
...
Fuck and yes. Although I must admit, this is about the fifth chick I've seen who's answered that question the same. I've never known many chicks who want to fuck everyday. But if this is somehow true, man o' man this is going to be interesting.

I don't even get sexless relationships. I wouldn't want to be with a chick who didn't want to fuck everyday.

What do you mean by that?

I'm pretty sure i need some kind of ongoing/reliable female companionship in my life, and i certainly don't want to spend a shitton of money doing it (unless there's some really good argument that fucking a prostitute would be worth the price for me, i.e. getting practice touching girls in a "safe" environment that i could later apply at bars/parties when trying to flirt), so i think i'm stuck in the Game for now.

Don't go to a prostitute. It's gross. And it'd be something you'd probably have to lie about to future romantic partners.

Just keep talking to women. Not necessarily flirtatiously, just talk to them. Get comfortable with them. They'll figure out if they're interested.
Hitting the gym wouldn't hurt. It'll help your confidence and give you a conversation topic. It's amazing how much people can talk about personal fitness.