Males and Females

[sevag00]

Literally the single biggest regret of my life so far is not having worked on my social skills / game more while i was still in school. Just hoping you don't end up the same way bro.

Well, i'm still in university and suffering from the same issue. It's because i was raised like that. I regret that i wasn't more outgoing when i was younger. Because my parents were kind of strict with issues involving hanging out and partying with friends.

 

[damnromulans]

Note to self: Never attend graduate school. Make a ton of money/awesome experiences with my undergraduate engineering degree. Fuck bitches. Win.

Yeah dude. I am pretty satisfied with the "go to work and play while not working" life model. Even now, with a mediocre salary and a cheap apartment, I'm kicking ass.

Condoms suck and hormonal BC sucks. I'd honestly rather just deal with abortions and morning after pills if it comes to that. Fuck being responsible for my decisions!

 

[SentinelSlain]

It's a dodgy thing to say, but I kind of don't trust condoms because I have actually had them break.

 

[Zephyrus]

I always use Trojan ultra-ribbed to avoid that risk. Never cheap stuff.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Well, i'm still in university and suffering from the same issue. It's because i was raised like that. I regret that i wasn't more outgoing when i was younger. Because my parents were kind of strict with issues involving hanging out and partying with friends.

That sucks, but it doesn't mean you can't work on your social skills now. It may be hard work for a while (it sure is for me), but i find the alternative of a lifetime of loneliness and depression pretty motivational, haha.

 

[Mort Divine]

I thought you were a guy. Aren't you supposed to be the one applying pressure?

har, I more so meant just the strain it can apply on a new relationship.

Nah, Mort doesn't want to worry about getting an abortion

Nah, I just don't have to have to worry about whether or not the girl would get one or if I'd have to perform one myself.

 

[Der Morgenstern]

Note to self: Never attend graduate school. Make a ton of money/awesome experiences with my undergraduate engineering degree. Fuck bitches. Win.

I would have stopped my education after that degree if I didn't get the great offer I did to go through the doctoral program I did.

 

[sevag00]

That sucks, but it doesn't mean you can't work on your social skills now. It may be hard work for a while (it sure is for me), but i find the alternative of a lifetime of loneliness and depression pretty motivational, haha.

Thing is, because of long time of very little interaction with people, i've become a person that hates the worthless small talks.

 

[MasterOLightning]

College is not prime time for getting laid for a lot of people. If you're at a commuter school, academically focused school, or grad school, people either don't prioritize or don't have the time for relationships, and the girls who do want something casual are probably going to look for (at least) slightly older guys.

Make sure to spend some time in college making friends that you're going to hang out with in your adult life. That's way more valuable than pursuing hookups. You need a drinking crew in your 20s.

 

[SentinelSlain]

All of my drinking crew are going to end up being in various other countries. Oh well.

 

[The Ozzman]

Note to self: Never attend graduate school. Make a ton of money/awesome experiences with my undergraduate engineering degree. Fuck bitches. Win.

That would imply actually getting a degree first

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Thing is, because of long time of very little interaction with people, i've become a person that hates the worthless small talks.

Dude i'm right there with you. I'm used to having very rational conversations with people where we discuss the deeper issues in their lives and learn things from each other, and i learned pretty fast at bars/parties lately that those conversations just don't fly when you're trying to pick up girls.

Part of it is that the conversation needs to have a flirty aspect to it that involves complimenting and/or teasing the girl to show your interest in her, but also i definitely feel like i have to concentrate on "dumbing down" the conversation to keep it light and fun, because the vast majority of girls don't want to talk to a "serious" guy. That's just the reality we have to deal with.

 

[King Richard]

That would imply actually getting a degree first

god damn you.

Dude i'm right there with you. I'm used to having very rational conversations with people where we discuss the deeper issues in their lives and learn things from each other, and i learned pretty fast at bars/parties lately that those conversations just don't fly when you're trying to pick up girls.

Part of it is that the conversation needs to have a flirty aspect to it that involves complimenting and/or teasing the girl to show your interest in her, but also i definitely feel like i have to concentrate on "dumbing down" the conversation to keep it light and fun, because the vast majority of girls don't want to talk to a "serious" guy. That's just the reality we have to deal with.

Parts of what you said are true, others aren't. The idea that you would even want to break down the mysteries of the universe when you first meet someone is just silly. Of course you have make small talk, you don't know each other, and first impressions are the most important thing. If you come off as some pretentious guy who is super serial about everything, and that you can't even entertain the idea of small talk then, ironically, no one is going to take you seriously. Especially chicks at a bar because that's one of the dumbest places to be. People aren't there to have deep meaningful talks, they're there to get fucked up and have a good time. Time and place my friend.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Oh, and i want to say something to all the experienced guys who tell virgins things like "be yourself" and "don't overthink": none of you has a fucking clue what you're talking about.

You either got lucky with a really nice girl, or you've developed a successful appearance and conversational style that you take for granted because it came naturally to you and you never had to think about it. Just take a moment to consider that maybe there's some phase of childhood/adolescent development that guys like me missed out on, and actually have to study and train as adults to make up for.


(edit: postjumped by rick. reading his now.)

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Actually my above post applies to rick's too. Bullshitting around about meaningless nonsense in a conversation is just not something i'm used to, bro. I have to practice it.

Also, you misinterpreted my description of my conversational style. I'm not trying to "break down the mysteries of the universe" with strangers. I just habitually ask people a lot of penetrating questions, because in a friend context it makes sense as far as quickly identifying what common ground i have with someone and how mature they are. The issue is that i'm one of a tiny minority of people on earth who's passionately interested in examining and improving myself, and most people are afraid of doing that.

 

[Onder]

Actually my above post applies to rick's too. Bullshitting around about meaningless nonsense in a conversation is just not something i'm used to, bro. I have to practice it.

Also, you misinterpreted my description of my conversational style. I'm not trying to "break down the mysteries of the universe" with strangers. I just habitually ask people a lot of penetrating questions, because in a friend context it makes sense as far as quickly identifying what common ground i have with someone and how mature they are. The issue is that i'm one of a tiny minority of people on earth who's passionately interested in examining and improving myself, and most people are afraid of doing that.

lol

 

[V.V.V.V.V.]

I always use Trojan ultra-ribbed to avoid that risk. Never cheap stuff.

Amen. As someone who has used cheap shit before, Trojans are certainly the way to go.

 

[Onder]

It's a dodgy thing to say, but I kind of don't trust condoms because I have actually had them break.

Did you chew them you primitive imbecile.

 

[Onder]

You're supposed to put them on your erect dick when having sex with a woman you child virgin, not chew them you faggot.

 

[Dak]

Actually my above post applies to rick's too. Bullshitting around about meaningless nonsense in a conversation is just not something i'm used to, bro. I have to practice it.

Also, you misinterpreted my description of my conversational style. I'm not trying to "break down the mysteries of the universe" with strangers. I just habitually ask people a lot of penetrating questions, because in a friend context it makes sense as far as quickly identifying what common ground i have with someone and how mature they are. The issue is that i'm one of a tiny minority of people on earth who's passionately interested in examining and improving myself, and most people are afraid of doing that.

Sounds identical to the problem I had/have. The downside of pretending to bullshit is you run the risk of coming off as fake, so the better thing to do is figure out a couple of popular "bullshit" pop culture things that you don't mind and learn them well enough so it's not fake.

Bars are overrated, especially if you are going alone. If you are only looking to get laid, just show up late and get some desperate chick. If you want a LTR, it's a waste of time.

Edit: Now that I am married, I don't go anywhere I have to just bullshit to get along. Fuck that petty bullshit.