When I moved out of my parent's house, I moved straight in with my girlfriend at the time. I grew up in a suburb of Seattle, 20 miles or so south. She lived right in the middle of one of the most popular neighborhoods in downtown Seattle. I was slowly but surely taking more and more things from my house to her place and I think my parents were getting the hint that I was working on G'inTFO. When I unhooked my computer and packed it up, they knew for sure haha. My mom was very sad. She knew after that, the house would feel empty since all the kids were about to be gone for good.
In hindsight, I could have handled the situation a little bit better, instead of slowly moving out without saying I'm actually moving out. My mom cried that day I took my computer, and thinking about it now breaks me down. I feel bad for putting her in that situation, but on the other hand... I think she'd have reacted the same way no matter whatwhen it came to actually watching me leave for good. I'm glad I still live real close to them so that I can go see them whenever I (or they) want. I'm far enough away to feel independent, but close enough to spend time with them at the drop of a hat.
If you have a good relationship with your folks, keep that in mind. For me personally, I don't think I would enjoy life as much if I couldn't see my parents whenever I wanted to. I'm heading down there for dinner on Wednesday
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I think it's never easy for the parents to see their youngest leave 'the nest'... I think even if you would have told them beforehand and prepared them, it wouldn't have been any less hard on your mom
But I see what you mean...
I think moving out of the parents' house is a huge moment. It's an exciting feeling that comes with a lot of mixed feelings too. But no matter how hard it is, both emotionally and financially, I think the main thing is the awesome feeling of independency and how it teaches you a lot about life, about the 'real world' sometimes things you didn't even know about yourself.
Some people move out at a younger age, and some move out at an older stage of their life, but no matter when you do it… you wouldn’t be able to look back and move back with your parents once you moved out.
To have YOUR OWN place is about the best feeling there is. (plus.. .walking naked in your own place is also awesome)
I sort of moved out when I was 18 and had to go to military service, and that was my first “real life” being away from home, living on base and be in the midst of the second Gulf War with Sadam (1998)
Which was a huge shock, but also a great lesson. My folks always raised us to be very independent, outgoing and adventurous so moving out after the military to Canada, England, Holland, and then to the US was such a natural move. I’m super close with my parents and I miss them so much, but its good to know they will always be there for me no matter what.
Going home for me, is like going on the best vacation there is…. My mom’s cooking, the fun of being with your family, “home” back in your old room, chillin’ with your family with cold beers on the beach (my parents live 2 minutes from the beach) … man, I love it. Can’t wait to go back home in September!!
