"so Darkspot and I aren't completely alone in this place"
What the hell are you talking about? There's like 2 people in other countries, and 2 or 3 in other states.
Nevermore from a musical aspect....
Almost all metal can be pretty much divided into atmospheric and catchy. I think Nevermore seems to be one of the few bands that can successfully blend both things which can make a metal band good, which probably makes them one of the more popular. Dead Heart seems to be a bit more stripped down than the other cd's. Works for the agressive songs, but I think it makes songs 2-4 kind of weak. It's a bit less atmospheric. DNB is more atmospheric, and more complex. PoE seems to be more of a mix of the two elements, and the vocals are a bit more.....trippy than the cd's that came after it.