Yes there is those kind of storys and you are accurate there, but what you are talking about reminds me more of our graduation summer and a few years after. We were lucky as the drinking age was 18 then and yes we were usually told to go home. I was talking about verbal and physical disrespect in schools. The stories from teachers now, especially this middle school age, they say what they want which is rude stuff, no one can touch them and they know it, they laugh in the face of teachers and adminstration, theres deliberate destruction of property, poor ability to communicate rationally with each other under adversion, they are just highly skilled at saying or acting in ways that piss others off.... where does it come from ? Look at the pile of anti parent songs that came out, messages like "your the problem, get out of my way".... WTF, your damn right we're the problem, we're parents, we have a job to do, life isnt a huge free for all. "I just want to break something"... yeah man, way to be ! All this stuff jamed in their mind at a time like you mentioned, when kids are going through things.
Dont get me wrong as indicating this is cut and dry 100% the problem, or that it has 100% saturation. My point was how much challenge does a parent need ? More, more, more, lets just keep uping the odds ? I found myself to be dancing to the tune of the lowest common denominator, always fighting off "well ____ parents let them" "____ does this... can do this.... whatever"
You mentioned peer pressure "their friends/schoolmates/whatever introduce them to whatever", how can you recogonize this and ignore any possibility of influence from these various media forms and the trends they set ? Christ, the bouncer at our local gig club, the one I went to see SX, told us "the older metal crowd was no big deal, some of the kids that come to these hardcore shows come just to punch someone in the face". Im not kidding, thats what he said. Sorry my gen. was not like that, a bunch of too late for the hippy party wanna be love in freak pussies ? Maybe, but I'd rather think we had a better understanding of respectful communication.
Some just agreed, parents need to stop blaming outside influences for fucked up kids
Could not a parent say kids need to stop blaming parents for their being fucked up ?
Its not all bad, I have realized now for along time looking at my generation that in the end most of us grew up to be responsible adults and I know that is still true. But these teenage years are far more trying today than 30 years ago. The biggest fear back then was we would all end up being long haired hippy freak "junkies". Today the problem is more of bad attitude, disrespect, nasty pissed off for no apparent reason stuff, so please tell me where it comes from ?
I dont care, no longer my problem, so dont everyone get all stressed out with me, just know that it is a realistic concern. As for parenting.... many of you's time is on the rise, lotsa luck suckers ! lol All these simple answers that seem rational today, vanish ever so quickly, and the hair begins to fall out, the face begins to age, and you ponder this voyage
