ohhhh I'm in pain constantly

[DreamNeonBlack]

SO continuing on with this thread. I've been holding on to this and just need to let some of it out for sanity's sake.

I'm not doing well with coping with my stuff at all. My friend gave me news ( in a rather weird way ) that she is moving to Spain AND getting married.

I'm not cool with this, she had kept this extremely quiet and then totally unleashed it upon me. In an email no less. I've been a mess all week.

I feel more than slightly betrayed that she has been keeping rather large news from me, and I'm also unbearably sad that she is leaving.

I do not enjoy these feelings and I want a court order for them to stop immediately.

 

[Ryan VH]

go to spain man!

 

[Will Bozarth]

damn dude. as long as she's happy. that's fuckin crazy though

 

[Chromatose]

damn dude. as long as she's happy. that's fuckin crazy though

no, that's a dirty lie. Like any of us care about some sexy faux-spaniard's happiness over that of dan's.

:zombie:

 

[dreaming neon darkspot]

sorry dan, but i, personally, am more interested in the sexy faux-spaniard

but really, i am sorry to hear about the way your friend withheld that news from you. a friend of mine who's s been going through a lot of rough stuff (almost all of it her own fault, sadly) would lose contact with me for a while, and then we'd have dinner and she'd spill all of this stuff that's been happening, so it really is difficult to find out that, whether or not you could've effected or helped what someone you cared about went through, they didnt think to tell you when you really wanted to know what was going on.

 

[El Stormo]

sorry dan, but i, personally, am more interested in the sexy faux-spaniard

but really, i am sorry to hear about the way your friend withheld that news from you. a friend of mine who's s been going through a lot of rough stuff (almost all of it her own fault, sadly) would lose contact with me for a while, and then we'd have dinner and she'd spill all of this stuff that's been happening, so it really is difficult to find out that, whether or not you could've effected or helped what someone you cared about went through, they didnt think to tell you when you really wanted to know what was going on.

Pride plays a large role in that. I'm kinda guilty of that too, I prefer to keep pain inside and let it eat away at me over having to admit to my friends that I'm hurting, since I was always taught that pain, especially emotional pain, is a sign of weakness. I learned that lesson so well that now I can't talk to people without feeling weak.

 

[in_absentia]

i think crying is a sign of weakness. i dont remember the last time i did it

 

[El Stormo]

i think crying is a sign of weakness. i dont remember the last time i did it

Neither do I. But make no mistake, the fact that we think showing emotion is weakness is a fault that lies with us, not the rest of the world.

 

[EricT]

i think crying is a sign of weakness. i dont remember the last time i did it

Aren't you a manly man!

 

[Will Bozarth]

i think crying is a sign of weakness. i dont remember the last time i did it

human beings are weak for many things. we need companionship, we need food, we need a whole bunch of shit. our will is weak for the things we need, and displaying emotion is one of them. saying crying is weakness, is true, but in no way is that a bad thing

 

[in_absentia]

Aren't you a manly man!

dude im a chic....

 

[in_absentia]

human beings are weak for many things. we need companionship, we need food, we need a whole bunch of shit. our will is weak for the things we need, and displaying emotion is one of them. saying crying is weakness, is true, but in no way is that a bad thing

yeah its not a bad thing and u know we all will cry eventually in our lives like god forbid someone close to us passes away or something of that sort but yeah its just a sign of breaking down and if it happens constantly then someone needs therapy. no way is it a bad thing tho

 

[El Stormo]

dude im a chic....

zomg in absentia a/s/l wanna secks?!!1!1!1!111!1!!1!!!one

 

[EricT]

dude im a chic....

Aren't you a chickly chick!

(come on, work with me here...)

 

[DreamNeonBlack]

sorry dan, but i, personally, am more interested in the sexy faux-spaniard

but really, i am sorry to hear about the way your friend withheld that news from you. a friend of mine who's s been going through a lot of rough stuff (almost all of it her own fault, sadly) would lose contact with me for a while, and then we'd have dinner and she'd spill all of this stuff that's been happening, so it really is difficult to find out that, whether or not you could've effected or helped what someone you cared about went through, they didnt think to tell you when you really wanted to know what was going on.

It was actually as bad as the finding out at dinner.

It went basically like this: I sent an email saying do you want to see Talladega Nights this weekend. ( Damn you Will Ferrell )
I get an email back saying sorry I haven't gotten back to you sooner. I've been really busy working etc.
Oh I have BIG NEWS! Freddy ( what the hell is that kind of name? ) asked me to marry him! SO I am engaged!


Now, I've known her for years, she has never mentioned a Freddy, so I was totally in shock!

After having to drag the information out of her she finally tells me that she had dated him back in Spain but broke it off when she decided to come back to the U.S.

What changed between them in the almost 3 years she has been back in the U.S. I don't know, but apparently something had. So once again, I lose a very close friend. It is tough because we spend so much time together and now she will be many miles away with some guy.

 

[in_absentia]

Aren't you a chickly chick!

(come on, work with me here...)

HAHA um i do my hair sometimes and i put make up on.. does that make me a chickly chic? wtf?

 

[EricT]

You're not making this easy, ya know?

*EricT goes to cry in a corner

 

[in_absentia]

awww im sorry EricT.... um lets see i wear high heels everywhere and i sleep in my make up in case someone hot comes knocking on my door at 2am for something... that make me a woman?

 

[EricT]

I'll accept failure and stick with the crying...

 

[Chromatose]

It was actually as bad as the finding out at dinner.

It went basically like this: I sent an email saying do you want to see Talladega Nights this weekend. ( Damn you Will Ferrell )
I get an email back saying sorry I haven't gotten back to you sooner. I've been really busy working etc.
Oh I have BIG NEWS! Freddy ( what the hell is that kind of name? ) asked me to marry him! SO I am engaged!


Now, I've known her for years, she has never mentioned a Freddy, so I was totally in shock!

After having to drag the information out of her she finally tells me that she had dated him back in Spain but broke it off when she decided to come back to the U.S.

What changed between them in the almost 3 years she has been back in the U.S. I don't know, but apparently something had. So once again, I lose a very close friend. It is tough because we spend so much time together and now she will be many miles away with some guy.

Perhaps you should have proposed first.

Maybe it's some sort of escapist fantasy she has, thinking that things will pick up in her life in a new situation, and now that she can go to Spain and settle down, she doesn't have as many worries as an individual fresh start would cause.

Or she craves babies.

Also, guys named Freddy are homosexuals.


You could also entertain the fact that it's your fault for actually wanting to see Taledega Nights. I know, I know, it's hard, but some things you just have to admit to yourself: "Will Ferrell Ruins Lives"