stefan86's offtopic random retard thread - post away!

Alright dudes, there's a weird situation afoot that I'm not sure how to deal with. Maybe you can shed some light on it for me.

The other night while my friends and I were drunk, my neighbor, in an act of desperation, stumbled downstairs drunker than I've ever seen another human being and asked to hang out. I invited him in to be nice, and he invited us upstairs for a game of chess. We said yes to the experience because why the fuck not, so we wandered upstairs where he fumbled to force his key into the lock. He got frustrated at some point, and tried to kick his door down, knocking himself over in the process. We finally got inside and pulled out his chess table, and we chilled out on his couch. Whatevs, not a big deal. But he kept saying some really off-putting shit while we were up there about how he was happy to have cool people inside his apartment. After one game, he fell over and remained on the floor for a bit. We asked if he was alright to be polite and he said he was fine, so we decided to head downstairs because it was getting late. Here's where things got weird; as we were leaving, he asked if it was because he did something wrong. It physically hurt to hear him ask.

A couple of nights later (tonight), I'm sitting in my living room and hear a crash in the hall. This nigga is stumblin' ass drunk again and fell down the stairs where he passed out. He's like 240, I can't possibly lift him to help him into his apartment. He's awake now, caterwauling in the hallway.

I'm concerned as a human. He's clearly going off the deep end here, I feel like he's completely alone and has reached out to me, but I have no idea how to react to this. It's not as if I can just watch this guy drink himself to death, but I don't want to get heavily involved either.

What do?
 
Alright dudes, there's a weird situation afoot that I'm not sure how to deal with. Maybe you can shed some light on it for me.

The other night while my friends and I were drunk, my neighbor, in an act of desperation, stumbled downstairs drunker than I've ever seen another human being and asked to hang out. I invited him in to be nice, and he invited us upstairs for a game of chess. We said yes to the experience because why the fuck not, so we wandered upstairs where he fumbled to force his key into the lock. He got frustrated at some point, and tried to kick his door down, knocking himself over in the process. We finally got inside and pulled out his chess table, and we chilled out on his couch. Whatevs, not a big deal. But he kept saying some really off-putting shit while we were up there about how he was happy to have cool people inside his apartment. After one game, he fell over and remained on the floor for a bit. We asked if he was alright to be polite and he said he was fine, so we decided to head downstairs because it was getting late. Here's where things got weird; as we were leaving, he asked if it was because he did something wrong. It physically hurt to hear him ask.

A couple of nights later (tonight), I'm sitting in my living room and hear a crash in the hall. This nigga is stumblin' ass drunk again and fell down the stairs where he passed out. He's like 240, I can't possibly lift him to help him into his apartment. He's awake now, caterwauling in the hallway.

I'm concerned as a human. He's clearly going off the deep end here, I feel like he's completely alone and has reached out to me, but I have no idea how to react to this. It's not as if I can just watch this guy drink himself to death, but I don't want to get heavily involved either.

What do?
aww you are good :)
 
Alright dudes, there's a weird situation afoot that I'm not sure how to deal with. Maybe you can shed some light on it for me.

The other night while my friends and I were drunk, my neighbor, in an act of desperation, stumbled downstairs drunker than I've ever seen another human being and asked to hang out. I invited him in to be nice, and he invited us upstairs for a game of chess. We said yes to the experience because why the fuck not, so we wandered upstairs where he fumbled to force his key into the lock. He got frustrated at some point, and tried to kick his door down, knocking himself over in the process. We finally got inside and pulled out his chess table, and we chilled out on his couch. Whatevs, not a big deal. But he kept saying some really off-putting shit while we were up there about how he was happy to have cool people inside his apartment. After one game, he fell over and remained on the floor for a bit. We asked if he was alright to be polite and he said he was fine, so we decided to head downstairs because it was getting late. Here's where things got weird; as we were leaving, he asked if it was because he did something wrong. It physically hurt to hear him ask.

A couple of nights later (tonight), I'm sitting in my living room and hear a crash in the hall. This nigga is stumblin' ass drunk again and fell down the stairs where he passed out. He's like 240, I can't possibly lift him to help him into his apartment. He's awake now, caterwauling in the hallway.

I'm concerned as a human. He's clearly going off the deep end here, I feel like he's completely alone and has reached out to me, but I have no idea how to react to this. It's not as if I can just watch this guy drink himself to death, but I don't want to get heavily involved either.

What do?

I thought I told you not to talk about me in public :(
 
No but seriously, that is a hard one. First of all, one doesn't necessarily know where to start , second of all if he is off the deep end in some fucked up manner, it could literally be threatening to yourself and Carlspants. Call me, ass.
 
I would probably try to figure out if he has any relatives, and then contact them and let them handle it. How can you otherwise help him without getting involved? Tough one. :erk:
 
What Qth said. I had known someone kinda like that he ended up going to an institution and last time I checked he was still in there :( poor fella. So do you see people coming and going from his place or does he drink alone and is just alone?

For the first two years I was here, I didn't even see the guy come outside. His mom brings him groceries once a month or so, and he only recently got a job.

He's completely by himself.
 
I would probably try to figure out if he has any relatives, and then contact them and let them handle it. How can you otherwise help him without getting involved? Tough one. :erk:

Yeah I might be able to say something to his mom when, I recognize her. How do you tell someone you don't know their son is fucking up hard and needs some help? :lol:
 
Maybe you dont have too say that much, just a heads up that something might not be so good. Tell her you are worried as a neighbour, or something. :)

perfect. I think 99% of the time we don't have to be part about others live. BUT if you see hi is going to be worst and worst, a little help its good. Just because if someone i love be like him, i will be so happy if one person at least do something about, a little help.
 
Alright dudes, there's a weird situation afoot that I'm not sure how to deal with. Maybe you can shed some light on it for me.

*Insert Exposition here to save space*

What do?

That sounds kind of sad actually. Sounds like a lonely guy that's decided to take up drinking for any number of possible reasons (pass the time, feel better etc) and was happy to have someone to hang with. Of course not being there I can only go with speculation so I don't know the extent of how the guy is actually feeling or if the drinking is a common occurrence but it sounds a little depressing.

At the same time you might not want to get any more involved than necessary, especially if you don't know the guy too well and it turns out he isn't entirely stable. You described a shut in pretty much that even has his mom bringing him groceries, and while it doesn't make him bad it definitely strikes me as something to approach carefully.

I'd have to agree you'd be better maybe bringing it up with his mom or someone that does visit and keep your name out of it so he doesn't feel like you "turned him in" which could make him feel worse for trying to hang with you. You mentioned he felt like he did something wrong which was the thing that stands out to me most, he seems to feel badly about himself and you wouldn't want to make him feel guilty or bad for reaching out for connection or whatever. It does sound like someone should help him out I'd just try to keep specifics out so he doesn't feel like he did something wrong or feel guilty like he shouldn't be trying.

I'm just going by one paragraph of info so hopefully I'm not way off :lol:


i would smile and say hello when i saw him, and never involve myself in his life again

Reasonable, but not very Canadian!
 
Man Niki, you're the anti-Canadian. :lol:

That's a solid bit of advice Caleb, it's the only thing that fits both my need to try to do something, and my need to try not be responsible for this person which I do not know.
 
:lol: i cant help it sometimes, i suppose if we had been friends i would help, but to me im just thinking if i saw the guy across the street from me do the same thing, id just do what i said :p