turning down a chick

[LeSedna]

arv, does this really work ? I always thought this was just a trap you have not to fall into. I understand it could work because in the end they get as drunk as you and thay have to be drunk with you because you buy the drink but never thought it could work.

Approach and confidence are a huge part of this. That's really how you get the one you want and not just the one paying the attention. Women like confidence. If you act like you're a badass they believe you are a badass. The key is to strike up a conversation without acting like you care much. It's also important that you don't look nervous when you approach. What's to be nervous about anyway? If they aren't into you then they won't be going home with you or hanging out with you... the same result happens if you don't go over there, so fuck it.

Just bullshit with them. Let them know you are interested but at the same time you could take them or leave them. They are used to scared guys and on the other end.. guys that are way too overbearing. Be the confident guy that isn't afraid of them, is interested, but doesn't care one way or the other and they'll be caught off guard. It's at that point they start trying harder to make you interested just because you seem to be immune to them when the other guys aren't. So in essence you turn the tables and make them try to win you over. This my friends is how you attain the unattainable.

I think you got everything needed to bang party women. I always thought it's all about confidence, speaking more than the others, and not giving it a shit. It's only when I was drunk and playing all that that I could bang girls. That's also why I'm not a good chaser : naturally with girls, I'm more a cool guy than a banger, but this also leads to interesting relationship in the long terms. I prefer it this way.

 

[Narissa]

it sounds like the majority of men here dont turn down girls. they hook up with the "girls" and reject the women. lol personally, ive been turned down lots of times. i was looking for relationships. then, when i started not to care at all, its a game. try to bang that one, shes not having it. i turned down 3 guys yesterday, and i was just around town at shops, no bars. lol. im with someone, but point being, when guys walk up all "confident" like "hey, come back to my place your hot blah blah blah" the only way you'll get it is if she has an std. lol confidence is important, but what are you trying to convey with it? because if youre all about hooking up with skanks, you just need a penis. or maybe not. i reject a lot of females too... lol

now, if you want to find a hottie thats not a skank to settle down with, you have to persue with confidence, then give her a little control. my fiance came to me at a party. the definition of smooth. haha and he isnt at all smooth, i know that now. anyways, he came up and had some business cards that he wrote his number on. and he asked who wanted to keep in touch or whatever. handed a few to some guy freinds, a couple girls he's known forever and whatnot. then he had one left, and walked up to me. and said he wanted me to have that one. and that he'd like to get know me and THEN ASKED me if it was ok to call me sometime. and im not gonna lie, i was very impressed, and not threatened at all, and i was given control. he approached me with respect, and i appreciated it. he was the only guy out of the bunch that got my number... and he wasnt the only one persuing. lol so, he called me within a few days. i gave him a call back when i had some time. and we talked for literally 4 hours. we started hanging out the next day, and we havent been apart for 4 years. thats how you do it!!!!!! haha or if youre a jerk and want to use it to get laid with a nice girl i guess you could use it for that too...

 

[SocialNumb]

OK I'll try that. Should be easy considering handing out business cards is normal to me. By the way, do you have a twin?

 

[Narissa]

^ well, there you go and im sure your business cards will go over a lot better... his were from the funeral home he worked at. lol

haha no ive got a couple sisters though......

 

[SocialNumb]

hahahaha I was J/k. VA is way to far!

Oh shit! a funeral home, that's kinda creepy.

 

[Narissa]

yeah, he's a mortician. lol

 

[LeSedna]

it sounds like the majority of men here dont turn down girls. they hook up with the "girls" and reject the women. lol personally, ive been turned down lots of times. i was looking for relationships. then, when i started not to care at all, its a game. try to bang that one, shes not having it. i turned down 3 guys yesterday, and i was just around town at shops, no bars. lol. im with someone, but point being, when guys walk up all "confident" like "hey, come back to my place your hot blah blah blah" the only way you'll get it is if she has an std. lol confidence is important, but what are you trying to convey with it? because if youre all about hooking up with skanks, you just need a penis. or maybe not. i reject a lot of females too... lol

now, if you want to find a hottie thats not a skank to settle down with, you have to persue with confidence, then give her a little control. my fiance came to me at a party. the definition of smooth. haha and he isnt at all smooth, i know that now. anyways, he came up and had some business cards that he wrote his number on. and he asked who wanted to keep in touch or whatever. handed a few to some guy freinds, a couple girls he's known forever and whatnot. then he had one left, and walked up to me. and said he wanted me to have that one. and that he'd like to get know me and THEN ASKED me if it was ok to call me sometime. and im not gonna lie, i was very impressed, and not threatened at all, and i was given control. he approached me with respect, and i appreciated it. he was the only guy out of the bunch that got my number... and he wasnt the only one persuing. lol so, he called me within a few days. i gave him a call back when i had some time. and we talked for literally 4 hours. we started hanging out the next day, and we havent been apart for 4 years. thats how you do it!!!!!! haha or if youre a jerk and want to use it to get laid with a nice girl i guess you could use it for that too...

What people are discussing here is not really ways to find a relationship, I mean, a long term one. They are discussing what works mostly in parties, which is somewhat at least a little related to what they search (consciously or not) in such parties. It's of course not behaving like a douchebag you will find the girl you will love. And it's not behaving like a tyran you can bang a girl, at another level. But the thread started about a girl he turned down who wanted more sex than romance (IIRC). That's why has been discussed why some girls come to some guys and not the others this way, and really, it's mostly to those who show themselves the more. What you are talking about is wayyy different, and this is not the same level of class nor the same interest in the end! In such situations, I never attracted girls behaving nicely (I mean, other than for long term relationships), always when playing a lot and especially when I really wanted nothing.

Also, for me, asking easily something in the street to a girl is not the same confidence we are talking about here. And the case of boys and guys is not comparable, for me there is a big difference the way we behave socially even when searching the same thing. Dunno if you get all my point ?

 

[Narissa]

What people are discussing here is not really ways to find a relationship, I mean, a long term one. They are discussing what works mostly in parties, which is somewhat at least a little related to what they search (consciously or not) in such parties. It's of course not behaving like a douchebag you will find the girl you will love. And it's not behaving like a tyran you can bang a girl, at another level. But the thread started about a girl he turned down who wanted more sex than romance (IIRC). That's why has been discussed why some girls come to some guys and not the others this way, and really, it's mostly to those who show themselves the more. What you are talking about is wayyy different, and this is not the same level of class nor the same interest in the end! In such situations, I never attracted girls behaving nicely (I mean, other than for long term relationships), always when playing a lot and especially when I really wanted nothing.

Also, for me, asking easily something in the street to a girl is not the same confidence we are talking about here.

haha it started off that way, then people started giving advice about how to pick up on them and their standards. and what i was saying is theres no trick to finding a girl to have sex with. and as for the standards, i was saying if you want a high quaility girl, you could use that approach. as i said, you could use it for whatever you want, but it works. i doubt highly anyone on here wants to bang the chick that threw up 12 times, but they might want to impress the drunk girls freind that only had one beer. lol but i also know that some guys on here are taking the sex because they are single and they can, but wouldnt mind meeting a nice girl. haha and if thats the case, that would be my recomended use for the advice. BUT someone said they like to be in complete control. i was saying you'll have better luck giving them some control. you can read it how you want to.that was the point.... lol there are people with lots of different thoughts on the subject reading. use it for good or evil. lol

 

[LeSedna]

haha it started off that way, then people started giving advice about how to pick up on them and their standards. and what i was saying is theres no trick to finding a girl to have sex with. and as for the standards, i was saying if you want a high quaility girl, you could use that approach. as i said, you could use it for whatever you want, but it works. i doubt highly anyone on here wants to bang the chick that threw up 12 times, but they might want to impress the drunk girls freind that only had one beer. lol but i also know that some guys on here are taking the sex because they are single and they can, but wouldnt mind meeting a nice girl. haha and if thats the case, that would be my recomended use for the advice. BUT someone said they like to be in complete control. i was saying you'll have better luck giving them some control. you can read it how you want to.that was the point.... lol there are people with lots of different thoughts on the subject reading. use it for good or evil. lol

No trick I don't know. Well I wouldn't talk about "trick" really because there is no magic but there is definitely some things that work better, it's really obvious because I know some guys who attract women a lot and there are a lot of similarities, and some who never, and they also share similarities. Same for girls aha

Byh "that approach" are you refering to the card-style approach ? I see the point of course. Even if it seems a bit old school or cliché, it's not often you receive the phone number cordialy. I really believe this is not the same as adding it in the repertory of a mobile phone directly, there's a game beyond. It's more the approach than the trick, cause there is no trick that works for everyone or we would all know it.

i also know that some guys on here are taking the sex because they are single and they can, but wouldnt mind meeting a nice girl. haha and if thats the case, that would be my recomended use for the advice.

Right, I think it's the case of everyone including me. My scientific excuse is that if you don't try to have sex with several partners you will end up cheating your wife one day (/cliché but every cliché has its part of truth )

i was saying you'll have better luck giving them some control.

I agree. It's just that I felt you were saying those kind of way to behave don't work because you were explaining your own case that is not really the same (romance/longterm and being-approached-3-times-a-day because that too is not the same : you are a girl !)

 

[Erkan]

Have you ever written a long post and felt like nothing you wrote made any sense, so you edited it into something like this? Well, I did it just now.

 

[SocialNumb]

yes^ Many times. I've spent up to an hour writing than ditched it and responded with something stupid like: "Who was phone?"

@ Narissa, your dude has some nuts. (no pun) I could never be a mortician.

 

[Erik Monsonis]

Have you ever written a long post and felt like nothing you wrote made any sense, so you edited it into something like this? Well, I did it just now.

LOL

 

[LeSedna]

I often do it. I also often epic fail when I write a fucking long mail and it bugs because of my shitty connexion, and it gets backs to the previous page loosing everything sometimes.

 

[Narissa]

I agree. It's just that I felt you were saying those kind of way to behave don't work because you were explaining your own case that is not really the same (romance/longterm and being-approached-3-times-a-day because that too is not the same : you are a girl !)

haha yes, i am a girl. not easily won over though. and if it worked on me, it could for you guys

@ Narissa, your dude has some nuts. (no pun) I could never be a mortician.

haha dont feel bad, i couldnt either. i seriously respect him for it. although, it gives you more reason to live life to the fullest, being around death all day. even people he knows sometimes. thats the craziest part.

 

[Metaltastic]

Dude, the worst BY FAR is when (while on a laptop), you're typing, and the side of your left palm (beneath your thumb) just touches the touchpad, which of course functions as a left-click, and if the mouse cursor is out of the typing field (where I always move it so it doesn't distract me while typing), then because a left-click was received, the cursor moves out of the typing field and "focuses" on the rest of the firefox window, so a) everything I type after doesn't get recorded and b) if I hit backspace, then that's the firefox shortcut for "back", so back it goes, and when I hit forward to return to where I was, everything I had been typing has vanished (as I'm sure will come as little surprise given the specific nature of my description, this has happened to me on far too many occasions )

 

[kaomao]

are we talking sex or relationship?
I've fucked some REALLY ugly girls when I was drunk...sometimes 2 at the same time...

Hell yeah our porn actor Lasse did it
well done! even if they were ugly, they were 2 at the same time so no bad at all ehheeh

 

[Metaltastic]

Dude, Lasse is a personal hero of mine with poasts like that

 

[GarethSE]

you are not alone, keeper of the creepy cat face man

 

[updog]

keeper of the creepy cat face man

Now this is a title we all should some day aim at.

 

[gabriel g.]

are we talking sex or relationship?
I've fucked some REALLY ugly girls when I was drunk...sometimes 2 at the same time, no need to turn them down...they have desires too (and they can fulfill yours....anyone remember my DVD player analogy?).

relationship? yeah, turn'em down, you don't wanna end up with some ugly fat psycho borderline bitch (like 90% of the metal chicks are).

sooo true,

thats why I never date any metal chicks!!!