I went to my local Chinese restaurant last night. I sat in the bar for an hour - me and my two scorpion bowls (I do this at least ionce a week, but usually only 1 drink). All comments that follow are from my observations - I spoke with no one in my private hour, which of course, made me an observer last night.
I was sitting at a table behind the bar. There are a half dozen tables in the bar, along with a dozen seats at the bar. The bar was pretty full, and people were chatting.
I sat down, and began watching the football game on TV, but started to notice (and hear) the various conversations going on around me. I started watching the people instead of the TV.
This one girl (thin, long hair, pretty) made it her purpose to show everybody around her pictures of her daughter. Then, she was talking with this other girl, whom was having problems with her child - sounded like a custody battle. The "picture" girl followed the other girl out of the bar, explaining that this other girl would get in trouble. I guess she was going to her ex to get her kid. I was wondering why the "picture" girl had to show everybody her kids picture - was she insecure? A tease with a kid?
Two guys, later joined by a third, came in and sat next to me. They were up from NY for the holidays, and were commenting on how much our chinese food was better than theirs. They seemed to have come to the restaurant for a refreshment break from a holiday with the family. One guy said to the guy that joined later that his wife and 4-year old daughter were with a family member.
Then - 2 girls came in. One was more butch than the other - "seemed" to be lesbians, but who knows? I only say this because the "butch" looking one kept on touching the other girl. The prettier one seemed shy at first, but after 10 minutes at the bar, she was talking to a male regular sitting next to her. She was the type that touched with every sentence.
There were various other people there - some playing Keno, staring at the Keno screen to see if they've won, others were just drinking, eating and talking.
Anyways, upon driving home, I realized that I spent that past hour just observing people, and had no interest in joining into a conversation. Sometimes I will talk to people in situations like this, but I usually observe.
So, if you went to a bar by yourself, and sat down with a drink, would you try to join in a conversation with others, or are you just happy sitting by yourself and observing? Me - I like the by yourself and observing choice better.
I was sitting at a table behind the bar. There are a half dozen tables in the bar, along with a dozen seats at the bar. The bar was pretty full, and people were chatting.
I sat down, and began watching the football game on TV, but started to notice (and hear) the various conversations going on around me. I started watching the people instead of the TV.
This one girl (thin, long hair, pretty) made it her purpose to show everybody around her pictures of her daughter. Then, she was talking with this other girl, whom was having problems with her child - sounded like a custody battle. The "picture" girl followed the other girl out of the bar, explaining that this other girl would get in trouble. I guess she was going to her ex to get her kid. I was wondering why the "picture" girl had to show everybody her kids picture - was she insecure? A tease with a kid?
Two guys, later joined by a third, came in and sat next to me. They were up from NY for the holidays, and were commenting on how much our chinese food was better than theirs. They seemed to have come to the restaurant for a refreshment break from a holiday with the family. One guy said to the guy that joined later that his wife and 4-year old daughter were with a family member.
Then - 2 girls came in. One was more butch than the other - "seemed" to be lesbians, but who knows? I only say this because the "butch" looking one kept on touching the other girl. The prettier one seemed shy at first, but after 10 minutes at the bar, she was talking to a male regular sitting next to her. She was the type that touched with every sentence.
There were various other people there - some playing Keno, staring at the Keno screen to see if they've won, others were just drinking, eating and talking.
Anyways, upon driving home, I realized that I spent that past hour just observing people, and had no interest in joining into a conversation. Sometimes I will talk to people in situations like this, but I usually observe.
So, if you went to a bar by yourself, and sat down with a drink, would you try to join in a conversation with others, or are you just happy sitting by yourself and observing? Me - I like the by yourself and observing choice better.