i dunno how much beating or any kind of punishment would really help a kid in that situation. it'd probobly just make him more likely to react violently. and at that age, they've pretty much been taught how to act and are not mature enough to rationalize things,
Yes, you're right. He HAS been taught to do things like that, and do you know how? His entire life, everyone has treated him with kid gloves. "No Jason, you're not supposed to do that." "Go to your room Jason." "You're grounded, Jason." "You shouldn't break into people's houses, Jason. You're grounded again." "Don't talk back to your mother, Jason." "Go to bed Jason, for the fourteenth time." "Why are you sneaking out of the house, Jason? You're grounded again, Jason." "We're gonna enroll you in sports, Jason, maybe that will keep you out of trouble." "Pull your pants up, Jason and stop acting like you're from the hood."
Fucking enough is enough. I asked my parents, "Why don't you beat his fucking ass? If I had done that when I was his age, I still wouldn't be able to sit down."
"Well, we want to resolve this without hurting his feelings and bringing his self-esteem down." Yeah, how's that going for you?
He does it because he knows the worst thing that's going to happen is that he'll go to his shrink more often, he'll fake taking more pills because he's got ADHD, and he'll be a nice young lad for a few weeks until he's off the hook and then he'll do it all over again.
Here's an example:
One day my dad fuckin' had ENOUGH after the paintball incident. He took him to the police. The cop told him, "One more time, young man, and you're going TO JAIL." Did it fase him one bit? He surely acted like it did, but in reality it didn't. When I told him that in one more year, he'll be going to pound-me-in-the-ass prison if he keeps it up, he says, "NUH-UH!!!! I'll be 17!!!" Then he kinda got scared when I told him that at 17 he'll be charged as an adult and he'll go to said prison, but then he just shrugged it off.
His mother constantly refers to the fact that, "Oh he has problems with ADHD and other things." Then I asked her, "Remember when I was a kid? Remember how I was really hyper and had trouble paying attention as well? What's the difference? Nothing. You all disciplined me the hard way and I learned really fast that you can't blame it on this shit." The worst things I did was like stay out all night and get caught sleeping in the same bed as my girlfriend at home and stupid shit like that. I treated other people with respect and aside from the normal teenage rebellion, I was a normal kid.
The only difference between Jason and me is the fact that he's not punished and I was. He wanted to join the Air Force and I told him he couldn't because he's got a criminal record. If he wants to do anything in life, everyone's going to see his criminal record and it will be an uphill battle from here on out. He's been kicked out of every single school in Lincoln Parish and they don't know what to do with him.
They constantly ask, "Why didn't we have these problems with you when you were a kid and were basically the same?" It's because they punished me as parents should punish children, not by asking them how it makes them feel by some shrink and load him up on drugs that he doesn't fucking need and that he doesn't take anyway.
A foot in the ass is all he needs. If he doesn't get it, then I hope he brings his soap on a rope in jail. I told him that due to his wanting to be popular and kind of a "bad boy", he'll get his wish eventually.
He'll be REALLY popular in jail with all the other criminals, being some pristine little white boy.