people can use those kinds of arguments to perpetuate oppression very easily though. think of whites blaming martin luther king for getting his people killed because he was *dumb* enough to start antagonising whites with ridiculous demands. of course a way for people of colour to avoid dying during the civil rights movement would've been to stop and just accept their place at the bottom of the hierarchy, but these days we're enlightened enough to understand that societal attitudes were the problem, not the movement.
that might seem like an extreme or irrelevant example but i would argue the 'rape culture' debate works pretty much the same way; women should be able to get drunk and wear attractive clothes and just generally be themselves without fear of rape (after all, men can), and it's not good enough to say "yeah but they can't, that's just how things are, so if they don't tone it down they're stupid". there aren't many folks in the west who'd make that same argument about more patriarchal countries in, say, the middle east, where women are more obviously oppressed - "well, if she's gonna try to behave like she's not a man's lapdog then she's an idiot and deserved to be stoned to death". same principle in both cases. the focus should always be on changing the climate of fear and oppression rather than telling victims it's their fault, because the latter is essentially accepting inequality and letting it win.