thing is, Canto, you're a fan. The band owes you nothing, like was said before. You and other die-hard fans want to hear your beloved band get recognition. Fine. But radio? Who the flying fuck cares about radio in this decade?
The band certainly has PR. They've also recognized that they have a target market. And that's you. They've likely decided (wisely) that if they blew a load of money advertising on mainstream radio, even metal stations, the return of newly-created fans and of those, purchases, would not balance out the cost. TV is an even worse market. I've always believed that bands copping a 30 second spot on TV were desperate, and wasted a substantial sum of money to advertise to a demographic that doesn't care about their commercial. Again, you really must not let your fandom override reasonable expectations.
Earlier I said that this entire issue was the spawn of the younger generation's conditioning to demand now now now. I need to append another cause: The blindness of some fans to reality - not only do they want now now now, they expect their beloved band to sit upon the pedestal of the world, recognized by all. It is good to want them to succeed, for sure, but this sort of mainstream radio recognition is unrealistic, because that demographic is not interested. They never will be. Symphony X does not fit in with the hit-of-the-day-then-thrown-away world. So why are some fans desperate for recognition of the band? Partly, of course, they want the band to succeed and feel they deserve it for their efforts. Admirable, but again - success in metal has little if anything to do with TV or radio. The other element is that recognition relieves the perceived tension as evidenced by the title of the other bitching thread: It's hard to be a fan. It's hard to be a fan of a band nobody knows about. Unless you're into indie rock, where such a thing is a mark of elitism, you may feel oppressed, or embarrassed, to be into a band that no one on the radio or TV or people outside the metal community know about. And you'd want to change that, spread the word to all nations as it were, so that you would no longer be a part of the out-minority, but of the in-majority.
People invest far, far, far too much of their own personal hopes, dreams, and sense of identity with bands.