Males and Females

[Manic Ferocity]

Ha, well I can definitely see how I'm undatable. I easily get sick of seeing the same person's face all the time.

Anyways, I did the deed.

 

[CiG]

As in, you dumped her?

 

[Manic Ferocity]

Yeah. I feel worse for her in how confused of a person she is more than anything else. I certainly am as well but fuck.

Did I mention in my first post that her fiancé was only a three month relationship?

 

[CiG]

Three months?

Well, allow me to congratulate you on getting the fuck out of there.

 

[Manic Ferocity]

Well, at least I tried to explain to her how ridiculous that was. Failed, obviously.

But seriously, I've never met a girl who was so fixated on an ex like that and I've heard plenty of girls talk up exes. It's annoying enough as it is.

 

[Manic Ferocity]

Also, this happened seven years ago, so she was 19 at the time and he was a year older I think. Sociopathic or not, I think it's at least relatively common for 20-year olds to play the field and make impulsive marriage proposals that they don't mean.

 

[Vilden]

Well if her self diagnostics is anywhere near true, from my experiance, dating people with borderline is doomed from the beginning. It doesn't matter how good things seems for awhile, It is garanteed to go to hell in the end.

 

[Manic Ferocity]

We dated for a year and for the first half, she seemed so dedicated and understanding about everything. I hardly had any trust issues during that time. Then she started working at my job. We work with a lot of people and she's often oggled at and complimented, as she's exceptionally pretty. I didn't care much at first but it got tiresome and annoying watching guys try. Anyway, there's was one day that I was just in a bad mood and I got overly jealous over a manager going out of his way to compliment her newest tattoo. From then on, she started talking down to me more and criticizing me for being too quiet or not having confident posture. I don't give a shit about these things and it was completely unlike her to say that at the time. But yeah, it just seemed to get worse and worse.

Also, and as I've mentioned before, she was very controlling towards me.

 

[Krow]

Well, at least I tried to explain to her how ridiculous that was. Failed, obviously.
But seriously, I've never met a girl who was so fixated on an ex like that and I've heard plenty of girls talk up exes. It's annoying enough as it is.

My wife talked about her ex more than I liked. Granted, she was with him three years. I think people get relationship nostalgia when things didn't end terribly. (Or even when it did)
I guess it never really mattered in the end so maybe I was being insecure.

A year ago he and his friend got drunk and took a bunch of pills and went for a drive. They got on the highway going the wrong direction and were killed instantly by a box truck. Now I poke jokes about him if we see someone talking about an ex.

 

[Manic Ferocity]

I personally think she used the idea that he's a sociopath as an excuse to keep dwelling on him, what happened, and why it happened.

Her parents were very neglectful of her from what I understand and I guess this guy came along who showered her with affection and intensity. I think she's still holding on to the belief that he's coming back. It's a little sad and I feel sorry for her but she didn't want to hear my advice that contradicted her reasons for continuing to dwell on him. What more could I do?

 

[Dak]

People don't become borderline because someone was mean to them in their adult years.

 

[Manic Ferocity]

I mean, apparently there was all sorts of weird shit going on with this guy. Some kind of emo libertarian Christian cultist mish mash with a huge collection of guns. Even still, three months, and he left her. Wouldn't it be more mentally scarring if he had stuck around?

Her parents probably fucked her up, honestly. That guy probably didn't help but it looks to me like a totally played up romantic fling.

 

[CiG]

People don't become borderline because someone was mean to them in their adult years.

They do if they're hysterical self-diagnosing women with weak minds.

 

[Funerary_Doom]

Yikes Manic ferocity. What a mess. 3 months she's been with him and she's acting like it was a lifetime? Fuck. I've been with my guy for 9 years today and I don't feel the need to talk about him to everyone. I honestly think relationships are kinda private and I don't think people are interested in hearing whatever shit you went through with your ex. Also, she sounds manipulative and not a nice person. She seems like she was using you as some sort of crutch for her own self esteem, which is not cool. Also, don't let someone take your keys. You are not a child.

 

[Manic Ferocity]

I'm not sure if I've already mentioned this before or not but this is the first woman I've been with that has major jealousy issues. I was able to look past a lot of it at first and a lot of the realization is just now dawning on me. Maybe I was just determined to make this work since it felt so promising in the beginning.

She's a former Suicide Girl, for those curious, or some kind of an affiliate -- I'm not sure about the exact details. She has one part of her body that she's extremely insecure about. I don't personally understand the problem but I guess some modeling industry criticized it once and rejected her. I'm sure that's a huge part of where her insecurity stems from.

 

[Funerary_Doom]

I'm sure she's very pretty but that really doesn't excuse that sort of behavior. I'm not sure why but when I see someone treating another person like shit (especially if the person being treated like shit is just taking it or clearly doesn't deserve it) just really enrages me to ridiculous degrees.

There's tons of models who are imperfect. But if all you have is some looks (aka not a perfect 10) and no substance/story you're quite fucked in that industry. You've dodged a bullet.

 

[arg]

haha reading this thread i'm sooo glad i don't have child support or psycho women problems and just fuck prostitutes, that's all females are good for anyway

 

[Carpe Mortem]

I so don't understand putting up with a controlling relationship. Actually I straight up don't understand how that's so often a factor. People say they wanna be in love with someone who's their best friend, but the way couples treat each other is completely different from how you'd treat a friend you actually care about. Some of it is knock-you-the-fuck-out worthy.

My own androgyny has been of great assistance in my relationship. I think attempting to occasionally forget each others gender is useful for equality and respect.

 

[CiG]

If someone said "you're doing something you enjoy too much and I want you to do it less and pay attention to me" I'd laugh in their face and bail or show them the door if we were in my house.

Fuck that shit.

 

[The Ozzman]

If someone said "you're doing something you enjoy too much and I want you to do it less and pay attention to me" I'd laugh in their face and bail or show them the door if we were in my house.

Fuck that shit.

Seriously. If a significant other said 'You do stuff with the drums' too much I would give her some table time and then throw her out a second story window.