Males and Females

[Onder]

Just know that if you're gonna drag your dick through spiderwebs you might get bitten in the cock by a spiedr.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

This isn't necessarily related to my previous posts, but I'm considering a vasectomy. I'm pretty sure I don't ever want kids, condoms suck, and I don't want to have to trust a partner to properly use protection. Anyone else here considered / done this?

 

[CiG]

You can always reverse the procedure anyway man. I know guys that did it and they have no regrets so far.

Fuck putting trust in someone else with something as insane as 18 years of child support at the very least.

 

[EspaDa]

Reversing it is pretty expensive though. That's what I read.

 

[Vegard Pompey]

Well, having children is pretty expensive to begin with.

 

[Vilden]

Pretty fun tho.

 

[Dak]

Someone who doesn't want kids shouldn't have them. The broader issue is why do so few millennials and Gen Z'ers want kids?

 

[The Butt]

I don't see not wanting kids as an "issue".

 

[CiG]

It is if it is or becomes the norm for fairly obvious reasons.

 

[The Butt]

I mean, I haven't looked at any data but I wouldn't be mad if population started decreasing.

 

[CiG]

Problem is, population only starts decreasing in certain countries with certain cultures. Religious and regressive cultures and countries don't stop breeding.

 

[Dak]

Pretty much all of the industrialized world is already at or below replacement level fertility.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

I'm pretty crazy about this girl, and we seem compatible. The conversations and the sex are both great. There are goals and dreams we share.

I just hope she gets her life more together at some point. I think she wants to, and she shows signs of recovery from her last breakdown. Time will tell I guess.

 

[CiG]

Do you genuinely like her enough to rough it out through the potential (inevitable really) future breakdowns as well as the day-to-day personality issues or is this just a product of loneliness on your part, if you don't mind me prying?

 

[zabu of nΩd]

I'm not lonely. I've had two short-term relationships in the past two years that were "just okay", and after both I felt relieved to be alone again. When I met this girl, I was very content with single life and not looking for a date - she's the one who asked me out.

I know a future breakdown is pretty likely. I don't know how it'll change my feelings for her. We've kinda talked about that already - I told her that I think there's extra uncertainty about things working out long-term because we both have mental illnesses, and she agreed. I can see potential day-to-day issues if we start living together, but idk if that's worth dwelling on right now.

 

[TechnicalBarbarity]

Women that have or have had breakdowns is a big red flag imo.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

I had a bad breakdown myself five years ago. I was unemployed for three years, largely as a result of it. Hard for me to judge her for her own.

 

[CiG]

I have depression myself, it's very mild these days through my own tinkering of certain things in my lifestyle, but I was seeing someone who had overwhelming personality disorder and fairly regular breakdowns and that was the most exhaustive period of my entire life.

That was probably the moment I realized I cannot maintain an all encompassing relationship without deteriorating.

So from one mental health sufferer to another, be careful man. You're probably stronger than me in that area, but still.

That shit aside it seems like you've met someone you genuinely like, given she basically snagged you and reeled you in from your single and happy life lol. Good sign!

 

[TechnicalBarbarity]

I had a bad breakdown myself five years ago. I was unemployed for three years, largely as a result of it. Hard for me to judge her for her own.

well i guess it depends on what kind of breakdown. Didnt really wanna bug you by asking for details. Women seem to have more intense breakdowns from what i've seen.

 

[Dak]

"Breakdown" is an extremely vague term. One can have a case of severe depression, a psychotic break, a manic break......