Einherjar86
Active Member
This whole "stay friends with exes" thing is laudable, but very, very unrealistic. My ex and I agreed to stay friends after breaking up, which led to "no strings attached" sex, which led to getting back together, which led to me being an asshole to her, which led to breaking up again, which led to angry sex (awesome), which led to getting back together, which led to a huge emotional upset, and finally we were done.
In most cases the only solution is distance. You can be cordial to one another of course, talk when you bump into one another at parties, call or text every once in a while (and by that I mean once or twice every six months or so); but as far as making an effort to keep hanging out and seeing one another, all that does is remind you of feelings you had when you used to be together all the time.
I'm not saying this is the only way; but more often than not, trying to maintain a casual, friendly relationship just leads to both people rationalizing how they can get back to fucking again. Even seeing other people doesn't work; you need to see other people and not see each other.
In most cases the only solution is distance. You can be cordial to one another of course, talk when you bump into one another at parties, call or text every once in a while (and by that I mean once or twice every six months or so); but as far as making an effort to keep hanging out and seeing one another, all that does is remind you of feelings you had when you used to be together all the time.
I'm not saying this is the only way; but more often than not, trying to maintain a casual, friendly relationship just leads to both people rationalizing how they can get back to fucking again. Even seeing other people doesn't work; you need to see other people and not see each other.