I was an antidepressant user for 2 years and from my experience it has actually helped a lot. You should know that there are many types of antidepressants. You just have to talk with your doctor so that he changes the dose or prescribe you another drug or combination of drugs. You can't just stop taking it if it's not helping you. You have to wait at least a month for the drug to start doing its job.
But the real question is.. would you guys date someone older?
I'm well aware of all of this.
Then you should start seeing a doctor. 10 years of depression left untreated is not something to be proud of.
Thank god he lives in America, where everything is affordable to the lowest class we have.