Males and Females

[King Richard]

How is that intricate? Just schedule something for the weekend you moron. It's too much of a hassle when you're both working full-time to do something during the week anyway.

 

[SentinelSlain]

Some girl told me to text her if I'm not busy this weekend. All I said in the text was, hey, I'm not busy. I suppose that was a bit dumb. I imagine she wants me to make some kind of move by asking her out. The thing is she's not really all that attractive imo. More girls messaging me on okcupid but I don't see it leading to anything. They'll get me to give my email address for use with msn but then never add me.

 

[The Ozzman]

How is that intricate? Just schedule something for the weekend you moron. It's too much of a hassle when you're both working full-time to do something during the week anyway.

The whole process that goes into it after the initial meeting is intricate. Like, if you do something the other party perceives as inapproproate (texting too early, etc) then it fucks everything up. I'm thinking a 30 year old would be over that shit, but Frank Zappa did comment that life is like high school with money, so who knows?

 

[Zephyrus]

Text messaging and social media have fucked up everything.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MoufhVjvNjo

this just blew my mind. never thought i'd just happen upon it after ~15 years of not hearing it and enjoy it.

 

[Einherjar86]

I find squirting both revolting and ridiculously attractive at the same time.

It's the Lacanian Real that creates a sense of anxiety and horror while at the same time feeding the fantasy of our desires.

 

[Dak]

It's the Lacanian Real that creates a sense of anxiety and horror while at the same time feeding the fantasy of our desires.

Expand on this.

 

[wandering_taco]

this just blew my mind. never thought i'd just happen upon it after ~15 years of not hearing it and enjoy it.

Men at Work kick some ass bro. Listen to Touching the Untouchables.

Aaand just to say something pertaining to the thread: vaginas are good.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Well my ongoing fruitless efforts at meeting chicks continue, and I need help interpreting this latest match.com conversation. The girl sent me a "wink" originally, so I struck up a conversation, but despite my efforts to engage her she's not doing anything but answering my questions at this point. Should I:

(1) ask her out in my next message?
(2) wait a few days / a week and then ask her out?
(3) give up because she's not interested?

Apologies in advance for how long and stupid this conversation is.

Your wink is well received What sort of teaching are you doing, out of curiosity? I've thought about trying that out and I'm not sure what the options are without a license. Also, got any plans for the (hopefully not cold/rainy) weekend?

I'm currently teaching swim lessons with a private swim school, but I'm going to go back to school to get my license. I know you can teach in private schools and community colleges with a master's degree, but no license.

Yeah, this weekend has actually been pretty slammed. I was at the Zine Fest most of the day today and then I worked this evening and tomorrow I'm going to see Wicked with my family. How about you?

Ah, okay. Yeah for me the worst part about considering a career change is the possibility of returning to school and the time/money commitment involved. I'm not at the point where I can make a comfortable decision yet, but it's pretty high on my to-do list since I am unhappy with what I am doing now.

Wicked is playing at the Landmark isn't it? I've never been there before, but the theater's mysterious oriental presence on campus has always taunted me with its allure

On Friday I cleaned my room, had drinks with apartment mates and watched one of them build electrical circuitry in Minecraft. Today I am visiting family out near Charlottesville. No plans for tomorrow, but I have some semi-required reading to do for work so I'll probably start on that. You planning to check out the folk festival next weekend? Looks interesting!

yeah, i understand that. but i've been broke college student for so long, it won't be a huge change.

i probably won't go to the folk festival, not really my thing. i'm also not big into crowds. i'll most likely by going to the roller derby bout instead

Roller derby... I think I just figured out where you got your username from, haha. I've been to one of those, didn't get much out of it but it was amusing (and those girls have some serious legs!). What makes you a fan?

It's just super entertaining and fast paced and it's awesome seeing chicks being brutal. I think I'd really excel at that sport.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

As a side note, she says this in her profile:

"I've never been a fan of the stupid games that go along with dating, let's go ahead and just bypass all that."

Which suggests she would appreciate me being direct, but this could easily only apply to certain contexts not including the initial email chat, and i don't want to be misled into a fatal trap.

 

[Master_Yoda77]

Before you go any further, ask her if she likes listening to Slayer.

 

[Zephyrus]

Then be direct.

 

[SentinelSlain]

There's some hot girl on OC but I don't want to message her because I have to edit my profile to mention how I'm her bitch first.

Apparently she likes BDSM. OO EER.

What I do find amusing is that there is a bondage "clinic" right near a load of normal shops I go in, in the city center. People get electric butt plugs put up there ass by some plump woman in a nurse costume.

It takes all sorts

 

[damnromulans]

It's understandable. Are you even aware of how judgmental chicks can be about personality-related stuff? Writing a profile for one of those things feels like walking through a minefield when virtually anything can be twisted into "oh this guy's a loser/douchebag/whatever."

But wouldn't they find out that stuff anyway eventually? IMO you might as well lay it out on the table and let people weed you out over dumb shit before anyone gets involved. But I guess I'm not a "normal" female in some senses?

Re: Grant - (1) but at least 50% likelihood of (3) tbh. Still it's better to know, right?

Re: Episteme - NICELY DONE. I always wished I could do that

 

[PhlegethonVeins]

Plus, I feel like it's awkward to ask out waitresses and bartenders. I suck.

That last line sums it up. There is always the potential, but it is in many ways their job to keep regular patrons guessing as well.

 

[damnromulans]

yeah, they're paid to flirt...but might as well put the ball in her court and slip her your number or something with a clever note about Slayer?

 

[PhlegethonVeins]

I guess? I mean, it's not like it's a strip club. And none of the other bartenders act this way. Maybe she's just a better businesswoman than the others.

Maybe, maybe not. she may genuinely have something brewing for you as well. Its just really sticky terrain attempt a read on. While it may be hard to read, it also is the type of thing that could easily dissipate if the idea is just flirted with in your head without taking progressive steps.

 

[CF87]

She wants to get you drunk and get your money, but how you take it is how you take it. People can believe what they want which in the end is what makes people happy. You could love her and believe she loved you if you wanted too.

 

[damnromulans]

I don't mean "flirt" as in the outright sexual sense so much as to just be able to make customers feel special and talk about anything with anyone. People skills and shit. I think you're silly if you don't go for it though

I also get your point about holding back. There's no reason to list every single facet of your personality on a dating site anyway, too much sincerity screams "I desperately need anyone" and is a HUGE turnoff.

Here's a question I always wondered since we're talking about online dating. Say you meet a girl and intend to pay for her, but she turns out to be a loser/ugly/not someone you want to see again. Do you still pay?

 

[PhlegethonVeins]

Well, whatever. I've hit on women like a total of 3 or 4 times in my whole life, so it's not like I'm actually going to do anything. It's fun to speculate about though.

I'm right there with you, despite the fact i've been in a few serious relationships and am heading out of the road of divorce I have had things fall gently in my hands when they have occurred, I've never been able to pursue though. I don't know how to make that adjustment, but I do know that I will never be able to claim I live with no regrets.