Males and Females

Overwatch said:
You have already had a taste of the major downside for the future of this relationship. I would run like hell from it.

These two people will forever been involved in this relationship were it to progress. You do not need that bullshit. Keep your worlds apart.
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Yeah, I think the one thing that strikes me is this:

If this girl isn't willing to be direct with me now, she won't be direct with me later. My ex-girlfriend wasn't direct with me when it mattered and it led to our break up. I am not going through that bullshit again.
 
I'm with ya, Ozz. It may be the mans job to show initial interest but if she isn't showing it back then lay off. The line between persistent and creepy is so narrow it's tough to know how to handle some situations.
 
Draele said:
I'm with ya, Ozz. It may be the mans job to show initial interest but if she isn't showing it back then lay off. The line between persistent and creepy is so narrow it's tough to know how to handle some situations.
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Well, I showed the initial interest, but my friends got up in my shit and told me I was doing it wrong so I laid off and went to a more passive approach. I guess I should have seen what was going to be potentially wrong in the first place when this initially transpired.

Fuck blind dates.
 
It's like Bill and Tina have a huge stake in this thing when all it boils down to is two people on a blind date who didn't really have any chemistry at the outset anyway.
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as I was reading your story, I was wondering, "What the fuck do they care? Shit happens."

whatever. sounds like a shitty situation, Oz, but you're right...if she wasn't upfront with you now, chances are she wouldn't be further down the relationship road. Onto better things
 
Well I mean you had one date...sometimes you don't like someone until you've spent a decent amount of time with them...still, any hesitation in making a second date seems fishy. Just my 2 cents though, everyone's situations are different...
 
The Ozzman said:
I talked to my dad about this because I respect his opinion the most out of anyone I know and he was pretty much dead on what everyone else here wrote (about her not being interested). His advice was to call her (at some point, not right now) and just ask if she would be interested in going on a second date and if she's not then have her tell me that she's not so I don't have mixed signals anymore.
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I don't think that's necessarily bad advice but I think in this particular circumstance, by doing this, you're only going to prolong the issue and likely only create more stress and anxiety for yourself. I admit I'm a cynical person by nature so personally, I would pass on this girl and move on. Or, at the very least I certainly wouldn't be the one to make the next move given everything that's happened so far. Then again, maybe you do see something in her (hopefully beyond her appearance) that makes her worth pursuing?...But if you don't, then there's really no point.

She doesn't seem to be a very effective communicator at all, so in time she may accept the invitation for a second date anyways because she might not want to say no or hurt your feelings, even if you blatantly ask her about how she really feels. But maybe she is a busy person and doesn't always have time for these things or maybe she's indeed a poor communicator and/or likes to play games? Whichever of the above it may be, these aren't beneficial to building a relationship.
 
Mike, what did I tell you? If your last attempt at contacting her and/or scheduling time to meet up didn't work, you move on. And why are you arguing with your retarded friends? You should have just said "thanks for trying to hook me up but I'm not interested" and be done with it.
 
Seriously. Don't build a relationship upon teaching a girl to accurately express her interest. If she is interested but gives all the tell-tale signs of being turned off, it's best to avoid.
 
Overwatch said:
This. And I am reserved as fuck when I first meet people. "Soul mates" just see through each other, through the walls that are put up to block out other people.
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Right. And it's not even anything as much as "soul mates" - just basic "I like you enough to have sex with you AND talk to you" shouldn't be shrouded in mystery or doubt.
 
Cythraul said:
So, update on cute waitress chick:

For the past week and a half, I've texted her occasionally trying to get her to come out with me. After a couple of exchanges, I started to get the feeling that she was subtly rejecting me and that we'd never hang out. So then today I decided to take a gamble on something: I sent her a text morally chastising her for being misleading.
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Man, that was pretty ballsy. I'll have to try that some time if I ever get that far with a woman again
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Are there any free online dating sites that don't exist for the purpose of studying the nature of their members? I ask that because okcupid is a website with relatively low reply rates and the shallowest profiling I've seen on a dating site outside of beautifulpeople.com.
 
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