Zephyrus
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I realized tonight that I can never get over my ex until I find somebody else, and if she gets with anyone else before I do I might commit suicide.
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Vimana
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Stay alive. Anyone can die. But in all seriousness, this issue will seem a lot less urgent and overpowering when more time has passed than the relationship you had with her. Just hang in there, and the changing ratio of time with her to time without her will work its magic.
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
I have philosophical reasons never to kill myself. But I might start doing other things tantamount to self-destruction.
Dak
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I wish I had the cojones to do anything remotely as ballsy as that, Cyth. Well done.
I suppose I have a minor contribution to make to this thread. There was a cute girl behind me when I saw Immolation a couple of weeks ago, and we kept looking at each other simultaneously and giving each other faggy smiles. After the set, we sort of awkwardly hung around the middle of the floor until she came up to me, started talking about bands, then asked me to put my name on her phone. She added me on Facebook and we've talked a couple of times, but I really hope something happens next time I'm in Chicago. The only problem is that she's from China and it's clear that she hasn't been speaking English much. Oh well, she's a neat art student that likes metal music and happens to be pretty darn cute, so a little language barrier doesn't bother me. The only problem is that I don't know if she wants me to be a metal buddy or a male buddy. I'm putting next to no thought in it though.
I suppose I have a minor contribution to make to this thread. There was a cute girl behind me when I saw Immolation a couple of weeks ago, and we kept looking at each other simultaneously and giving each other faggy smiles. After the set, we sort of awkwardly hung around the middle of the floor until she came up to me, started talking about bands, then asked me to put my name on her phone. She added me on Facebook and we've talked a couple of times, but I really hope something happens next time I'm in Chicago. The only problem is that she's from China and it's clear that she hasn't been speaking English much. Oh well, she's a neat art student that likes metal music and happens to be pretty darn cute, so a little language barrier doesn't bother me. The only problem is that I don't know if she wants me to be a metal buddy or a male buddy. I'm putting next to no thought in it though.
MasterOLightning
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I had a pretty awesome first date with a girl from OkCupid tonight. When it's going to click, I think it's almost always obvious in about five minutes. Learning to actually read body language will enable you to loosen up and not have to guess about things all night. And odds are it will be a self-fulfilling prophecy from there.
I don't know what all of you guys are doing wrong on OkC. You have to be patient, accept some fails, and possibly live in a very large city where there are a lot of options. That last point might be the main thing. There are tons of cool, attractive, art students who are just the right amount of crazy here. I'm sure all of you guys can at least string together sentences in a coherent way, and I'm guessing most of you aren't any less attractive than I am. Asking a girl about her interests and starting a conversation tend to be good ideas.
I don't know what all of you guys are doing wrong on OkC. You have to be patient, accept some fails, and possibly live in a very large city where there are a lot of options. That last point might be the main thing. There are tons of cool, attractive, art students who are just the right amount of crazy here. I'm sure all of you guys can at least string together sentences in a coherent way, and I'm guessing most of you aren't any less attractive than I am. Asking a girl about her interests and starting a conversation tend to be good ideas.
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Zephyrus
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New girl on my radar, but way too early to know what of it. She just transferred to UMaine (a good sign since anyone with a social circle is anathema to me) and she seems really interested in the Classics aspect of me. She even showed up last night to the dramatic reading of Plato's Gorgias I put on last night with a few professors. I really should get to know her more.
But the problem is that her Facebook doesn't list her relationship status, which is a turn-off not only in that I don't want to put in the effort to find out elsewise but it potentially means she's a bitch.
But the problem is that her Facebook doesn't list her relationship status, which is a turn-off not only in that I don't want to put in the effort to find out elsewise but it potentially means she's a bitch.
Overwatch - Bullshit, goth clubs are awesome.
Well done Cythraul - I bet you left her longing and wanting, and you left with your pride intact and getting in the last word. Cyth: 1,000,000 Waitress bitch: 0
Addo - Sweet! Language barrier = no biggie. If you end up being just a buddy and that's not ok you can just drop her!
MasterofLightning - I'd agree, slim pickins anywhere with under 500,000 people it seems. I went on 2 OKCupid dates - one was cool (soldier dude) and the other was nice looking but liked Radiohead a lot, the dealbreaker was that he argued with me over whether or not we were going to hold hands in his car.
Zeph - Do you SERIOUSLY dock points over whether she posts her relationship status on Facebook? Really? At least get her on a coffee/chat one-on-one before you start getting worried about that, dude.
I'm doing OK, still riding the porkpal train and enjoying the heck out of it. Don't think there's much in the way of relationship potential which makes it perfect. I hope he sees it the same way.
Well done Cythraul - I bet you left her longing and wanting, and you left with your pride intact and getting in the last word. Cyth: 1,000,000 Waitress bitch: 0
Addo - Sweet! Language barrier = no biggie. If you end up being just a buddy and that's not ok you can just drop her!
MasterofLightning - I'd agree, slim pickins anywhere with under 500,000 people it seems. I went on 2 OKCupid dates - one was cool (soldier dude) and the other was nice looking but liked Radiohead a lot, the dealbreaker was that he argued with me over whether or not we were going to hold hands in his car.
Zeph - Do you SERIOUSLY dock points over whether she posts her relationship status on Facebook? Really? At least get her on a coffee/chat one-on-one before you start getting worried about that, dude.
I'm doing OK, still riding the porkpal train and enjoying the heck out of it. Don't think there's much in the way of relationship potential which makes it perfect. I hope he sees it the same way.
Zephyrus
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I can understand not liking this because of the ambiguity, although I would say it probably means she's not in a relationship. But how could it mean she's a bitch?
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Srontgorrth
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Ugh.
So, talked to the girl I had been hanging out with the past 3 or so weeks (and that I went to LA with etc). She pretty much said that she didn't feel like she was ready for a relationship with me, or with anyone(we only kissed for the first time on Wednesday, before that just mild pda I guess). Pretty fucking disappointed since we had a really great time, though I noticed towards the end of our trip she seemed sort of not as affectionate etc, and that she didn't really intend for anything beyond friendship, but that it all sorta just happened. This is the third fucking time this has happened since breaking up with my ex (though others didn't go past friendship) and I can't believe it. What the fuck. I really like her too; this sucks.
So, talked to the girl I had been hanging out with the past 3 or so weeks (and that I went to LA with etc). She pretty much said that she didn't feel like she was ready for a relationship with me, or with anyone(we only kissed for the first time on Wednesday, before that just mild pda I guess). Pretty fucking disappointed since we had a really great time, though I noticed towards the end of our trip she seemed sort of not as affectionate etc, and that she didn't really intend for anything beyond friendship, but that it all sorta just happened. This is the third fucking time this has happened since breaking up with my ex (though others didn't go past friendship) and I can't believe it. What the fuck. I really like her too; this sucks.
Bravo! How'd you do it? And how much time did you talk with her? I've always been interested in pulling waitresses, but they're harder to me. The best ones I asked out barely spoke English.
A recent epiphany from me: Older women are going to always desire for their ex or someone like them. One told me that she met up with her ex recently and that she wants to see how things go (once again), so no more of me for her. Maybe I should try and meet a MILF at a bar instead of a grocery store? haha.
I haven't been out cold approaching much at all. I've been focusing on other things besides women, though that physiological, and perhaps addictive need, is there and waiting for me.
I want cute/hot women in their 20s in my life. That's a priority. But that means improving myself in other ways. Because there's no way I meet these kind of girls unless I cold approach.
Draehl
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I think the only latina in the world that does anything for me is Benita Robledo. nomnomnom. Otherwise? meh.
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