Matt
Active Member
Didn't read much into your first post, but it depends on if you want to sacrifice a friendship for a chick. Despite how arbitrary his ultimatum might seem, friends are better investments than women IMO.
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Master_Yoda77
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If anything, it sounds like he's more mad at her than anything. I find his response silly. If he loves and respect you, why can't you guys still be friends?
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
My perspective is that any woman who is an ex is a whore in the mind of the ex-boyfriend, and thus anyone she associates with is persona non grata. If it's a friend, he's not a friend anymore. It's how people (especially insecure people) deal with breakups. They invent whatever they can to justify in their minds that the person they used to date was the sum of all vices. Those who might disagree with that interpretation (i.e. someone now dating/banging said female) are especially threatening to what the ex-boyfriend NEEDS to believe in order to move on and find someone new. It's a part of getting over someone: justifying to oneself that the previous partner was a total mistake.
Master_Yoda77
Juggalo
This is how I figured I'd always take being brokenup with, but I haven't had that experience yet. I just wine em, dine em, and sixty-nine em.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ac2Nq33SEx4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ac2Nq33SEx4
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
In other words, one's best friend dating the person you are no longer dating is a threat to neat categorization of "ex-girlfriend bad, friend good".
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
Which is consistent with my theory that exes cannot be friends. Convincing oneself that a former partner is evil is a coping mechanism.
I disagree with you there (and I'm sure guys like KafkaX do too). I think there's a possibility you can form a friendship, but it all depends on how the breakup happens... but 99.99% of the time, breakups aren't pretty. So basically, I think it can happen, but it usually can't/won't.
Matt
Active Member
It's hard but not impossible, like Vimanna said it just depends on how and why the relationship ended. My most recent ex and I talk sometimes because we know each other so well, no background or anything is needed when discussing problems. It's good to have that perspective. But we do not hang out or do anything aside from talk occasionally.
MasterOLightning
Optimator
I think it's easier to stay friends with an ex if you have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy about future romantic relationships. That's a lot easier if you don't have the same circle of friends and aren't going to run into any gossip.
Onder
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Was at the girl's place yesterday and stuck my peen to her mouth boom boom and came on her face and then I played with her boobs and waited a bit for my dick to respawn and then I fucked her and still came too fucking early which was kinda awkward. Took like 4 liquid shits at her place yesterday as well. Now I'm at my dad's place listening to Janáček's Suite for String Orchestra JW 6/2.
MasterpieceMesias
Professional Asshole
Personally I couldn't give a fuck who said chick is related to I'll still bang her if the opportunity arises.
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If I saw her family was full of dirty village gypsies then I'd fucking take my time deciding, even if the girl looked clean, clever and hot. One mate from my neighborhood fell in love with this silly little bitch that looks all cute and shit, but I looked up her relatives and "ew". No wonder she got pregnant when she was 15.
Satanstoenail
My Larpstyle determines my Derpstyle
A couple of months is not a very long time. I'd have at least worded him up about it. Him finding out via photos of you together on FB must have sucked. He sounds like he's overreacting based on how long he was with her, but you haven't played this very well imo.
Is this really what you think? It's an extremely limited view.
Zephyrus
Tyrants and Slaves
It's exaggerated (I was drunk), but it does indicate a very common experience. Taking an overly negative view of an ex-partner, being spiteful and all that, is a way of compensating for the feelings one still might have for that partner. Putting that partner into a neat categorization of "the bad past" instead of "the better present" helps one move on. If that ex is dating your best friend, that maintains the presence of something you wished remained in the past.
V.V.V.V.V.
Houses Ov Mercury
Yeah, I probably should've asked him but I don't think I would have respected his response, so I'm probably just an asshole in a way, though I also don't think I really did anything on purpose; an attraction happened and we went for it. Also, they weren't pictures of us, just her being tagged in location posts with me on my phone, etc. and he pieced it together. We were careful not to do pictures together because of the pain it could inflict, which I was in agreement with.
Eligos
Problem Yet to be Solved
So I haven't mentioned her in a while, but my girlfriend's going to Portland for a week. She said she wants to try anal when she gets back. I've never dated a girl who was up to it, and I'm fucking stoked as all get out.
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