You're right, so long as you don't want more out of a woman than food, sex, and silence.
Maybe that's why you have trouble. What you think makes the typical man happy doesn't even describe a relationship. Well, maybe one between a master and a slave.
She is a complicated mess and needs to get her thoughts straightened out, because that crap is annoying.
He's right, though. It's not as simple as "fuck me, feed me, and shut the fuck up," but it does seem to be true that guys' desires are simpler when it comes to relationships. It's just a corollary of the fact that women are the more selective sex (they have to be, for plain biological reasons.) So as far as I'm concerned, there are a lot more hoops that men have to jump through. I even recall reading some article (wish I could remember where I saw it) that cited actual evidence that women tend to misjudge in predictable ways what they want.
And it's also what cold, hard experience shows me. Some girls think a little bit more like men, and they're a lot easier to deal with on a day to day basis. Last chick I dated was especially high maintenance. It is seriously a pain in the ass to have to interpret womanese all the time and stress out about if you've done or said yet another thing not deemed correct by the princess. When a girl bitches about gender roles and then tells you she wants you to treat her "like a lady" and that you were supposed to know that, she is a complicated mess and needs to get her thoughts straightened out, because that crap is annoying. Went off on a bit of a personal rant there. Sorry.
Anyway, moral: Ignore roughly half of what women you're dating say to you.
He's right, though. It's not as simple as "fuck me, feed me, and shut the fuck up," but it does seem to be true that guys' desires are simpler when it comes to relationships. It's just a corollary of the fact that women are the more selective sex (they have to be, for plain biological reasons.) So as far as I'm concerned, there are a lot more hoops that men have to jump through. I even recall reading some article (wish I could remember where I saw it) that cited actual evidence that women tend to misjudge in predictable ways what they want.
And it's also what cold, hard experience shows me. Some girls think a little bit more like men, and they're a lot easier to deal with on a day to day basis. Last chick I dated was especially high maintenance. It is seriously a pain in the ass to have to interpret womanese all the time and stress out about if you've done or said yet another thing not deemed correct by the princess. When a girl bitches about gender roles and then tells you she wants you to treat her "like a lady" and that you were supposed to know that, she is a complicated mess and needs to get her thoughts straightened out, because that crap is annoying. Went off on a bit of a personal rant there. Sorry.
Anyway, moral: Ignore roughly half of what women you're dating say to you.
Men wish women would talk less and women wish men would listen more. This dynamic isn't changing, but blowjobs are an excellent short-term solution.
If Vimana thinks he will meet a women that he won't desire to stfu many times over the course of a LTR:
I've never dated a chick that talked too much. I've noticed over the years that the girls guilty of being "talkers" are usually dumb in which case I avoid them.
Drunk post...
I've been with my girl for about seven months now. My only fear is that we're advancing a bit quickly, since the only thing holding us back from living together is the fact that I'm still an undergraduate living with my mother (she just graduated with a business degree this summer; she's maintaining some middle-of-the-road work since we have intentions to live together when I'm in grad school). Nevertheless, the "L" word has been tossed around (with complete conviction) on both sides for a couple of months now, and I can see this going a really long way. There's this mutual feeling of unexpectedness, since we were both relatively "forever alone" types until we happened to find each other. I suppose there's really no point to this post other than the fact that things are going well in my insular ivory tower, and I'm pretty much as happy as I ever have been.
I've never dated a chick that talked too much. I've noticed over the years that the girls guilty of being "talkers" are usually dumb in which case I avoid them.
Drunken response:
Enjoy it, mother fucker. Srsly.
Thanks, bro. I appreciate it, honestly.
Non-sequitir: Me, you, Yoda, Krig, and whoeverthefuckelse need to get together and drink some 40s together.