Males and Females

[KafkaX]

Well things went really well yesterday at my exe's party. It was the first time it really felt like we were friends hanging out. No drama, no awkwardness. It just felt like hanging out with an old friend I hadn't spent time with in a while and we acknowledged as much to each other. Really glad we had that interaction before she takes off for half a year.

Cool man, happy to hear everything worked out in the best way possible.

As for me, I finally manned up and broke up with my girlfriend, for good this time. I feel a mixture of relief, sadness and anger. Of course the breakup went how must of our fights go, a lot of unproductiveness by the way of just bitching at each other. I wanted to have a smooth transition, for both of our healing to start on a healthy note but instead it's started on a anger filled note which leaves me wanting to be anything but nice to her. However, this does motivate me and reassure me that this decision is for the best.

Now comes the hard part. Got fucking blackout drunk last night because the sadness came in. I really did love her, as crazy as our relationship was, and cared for her a great deal. But the post breakup blues are setting in hardcore. All those things I took for granted are now no longer, I look back at all the good times, and look back at all the bad times, especially how I was a piece of shit a lot of the time and I get very very depressed and hard on myself. Hence why I drank fucking so heavy last night.

Just gotta stay strong and not get back together with her.

 

[jakethedog]

Probably too fat to fit through the door to get into the venue

As far as she's concerned maybe, but the thing is, SHE ISN'T. I drunk dialed her tonight and left a voicemail cause she didn't answer... god, I just need to be with her right now and away from this fucking house...

 

[The Ozzman]

Cool man, happy to hear everything worked out in the best way possible.

As for me, I finally manned up and broke up with my girlfriend, for good this time. I feel a mixture of relief, sadness and anger. Of course the breakup went how must of our fights go, a lot of unproductiveness by the way of just bitching at each other. I wanted to have a smooth transition, for both of our healing to start on a healthy note but instead it's started on a anger filled note which leaves me wanting to be anything but nice to her. However, this does motivate me and reassure me that this decision is for the best.

Now comes the hard part. Got fucking blackout drunk last night because the sadness came in. I really did love her, as crazy as our relationship was, and cared for her a great deal. But the post breakup blues are setting in hardcore. All those things I took for granted are now no longer, I look back at all the good times, and look back at all the bad times, especially how I was a piece of shit a lot of the time and I get very very depressed and hard on myself. Hence why I drank fucking so heavy last night.

Just gotta stay strong and not get back together with her.

I pretty much went on a heavy drinking binge after a breakup back in November/December. I was a wreck emotionally. Now I want nothing to do with her.

 

[Master_Yoda77]

Alcohol is always the answer. Fucking knows its gonna win.

 

[Jimmy... Dead.]

When I broke up with my girl back in 2008 I was drinking and popping painkillers like a maniac. Can't say it was a bad time haha. Haven't had it in a long time but fuck do I love oxycodone.

 

[Eligos]

When I broke up with my latest girl, I drank a six pack or a fifth a night for about 2 months straight. Just now starting to cut back, meditate, write music, and smoke bud again.

 

[Jimmy... Dead.]

Fuck, that's pretty brutal. You must have felt like complete shit most days.

 

[Eligos]

Yeah, that relationship did a number on me. I'm still wrestling with some of the subconscious backlash, particularly night terrors. This too shall pass.

 

[Funerary_Doom]

This is why I like forums, really like reading about other people's experiences. Never went through a legitimate breakup, just a dude who I really liked and thought things were going well completely did a 180 and basically turned me down. It fucked with me really bad; and at the time, i didn't drink at all so i just listened to a ton of music and tried to stay productive. But still was going pretty crazy since my mind is extremely analytical and critical. It might be easier when you try to keep yourself busy and focused on your own betterment. You do get curious every once in awhile, but i'm sure once you set a goal like, "i won't speak to such and such for this amount of time" or "during this time i'm going to work on this about myself" it gets easier. Also, hitting up good friends is always a good idea, sometimes i, myself, forget most of them are just a text away.

 

[Master_Yoda77]

I drink a six pack every day. Not because of relationship problems or anything, but because alcohol is awesome.

 

[Krow]

Yeah, that relationship did a number on me. I'm still wrestling with some of the subconscious backlash, particularly night terrors. This too shall pass.

I've always wondered what a night terror would be like, or sleep paralysis for that matter. I'm boring and only on extremely rare occasion remember a dream. (Even though I had a strange recurring one as a kid)

 

[Matt]

Cool man, happy to hear everything worked out in the best way possible.

As for me, I finally manned up and broke up with my girlfriend, for good this time. I feel a mixture of relief, sadness and anger. Of course the breakup went how must of our fights go, a lot of unproductiveness by the way of just bitching at each other. I wanted to have a smooth transition, for both of our healing to start on a healthy note but instead it's started on a anger filled note which leaves me wanting to be anything but nice to her. However, this does motivate me and reassure me that this decision is for the best.

Now comes the hard part. Got fucking blackout drunk last night because the sadness came in. I really did love her, as crazy as our relationship was, and cared for her a great deal. But the post breakup blues are setting in hardcore. All those things I took for granted are now no longer, I look back at all the good times, and look back at all the bad times, especially how I was a piece of shit a lot of the time and I get very very depressed and hard on myself. Hence why I drank fucking so heavy last night.

Just gotta stay strong and not get back together with her.

Find a rebound chick. Works wonders, especially if she's going through the same things you are.

 

[The Butt]

I drink a six pack every day. Not because of relationship problems or anything, but because alcohol is awesome.

The epitome of manliness.

 

[Master_Yoda77]

I messaged a few girls on OKC last night. I received a response from one, and now I'm just waiting for her to respond back. Fuck Cunts.

 

[Nephilim96]

I haven't communicated with a female who wasn't a relative, in months.

 

[monoxide_child]

I've noticed that some girls will be flirting and not even realizing they are. Like they think they're just talking, but a guy would obviously be turned on by it. she was just drunk/being silly/whatever

this^^
happens all the freaking time

it's really ficking annoying

 

[monoxide_child]

I haven't communicated with a female who wasn't a relative, in months.

get yourself outdoors dammit

 

[Zephyrus]

LG and I are back on long-distance, even more so than last semester because I'm less likely to be able to afford flying to New England and back for monthly visits, that and I have a busier schedule that prevents me from skipping town/classes to do so.

It's been a bit of an adjustment, since we spent almost four solid months of summer together, almost every day. But we never got sick of each other because the first few months of the relationship were long-distance and an investment that paid off this summer and made our bond strong as ever.

I'm relying on positive habits to keep me going: focusing on my classwork/teaching, cooking healthy meals, and exercising daily. I'm going to limit my drinking to Friday nights or whenever I get a weekend escape to party with Schmidt and company.

We've been in the habit of brief phone calls before bedtime and Skyping a couple times each week. I'm confident we can persevere through it, even if I might not see her until November or even December. Might try to steal a weekend in October but that will really push it.

 

[monoxide_child]

LG and I are back on long-distance, even more so than last semester because I'm less likely to be able to afford flying to New England and back for monthly visits, that and I have a busier schedule that prevents me from skipping town/classes to do so.

It's been a bit of an adjustment, since we spent almost four solid months of summer together, almost every day. But we never got sick of each other because the first few months of the relationship were long-distance and an investment that paid off this summer and made our bond strong as ever.

I'm relying on positive habits to keep me going: focusing on my classwork/teaching, cooking healthy meals, and exercising daily. I'm going to limit my drinking to Friday nights or whenever I get a weekend escape to party with Schmidt and company.

We've been in the habit of brief phone calls before bedtime and Skyping a couple times each week. I'm confident we can persevere through it, even if I might not see her until November or even December. Might try to steal a weekend in October but that will really push it.

find a way to make the skyping every single day and you'll be fine

 

[Nephilim96]

I haven't communicated with a female who wasn't a relative, in months.

get yourself outdoors dammit

I don't want the Aids.