Still a success, I would say. Good on you for remaining open to cultivating a friendship instead of just calling it quits after realizing an absence of physical attraction. There's also the odd chance that you might become attracted to her as you get to know her better.
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That is a definite possibility. It happened to me with one of my longtime friends who I always considered to be average looking, but then as I really got to know her everything changed dramatically.
Those kinds of events are very special because initial attractions can fade easily, but one built over a long period of time is hard to shake.
And also, people forget that the entire premise of feminism is that if you decide you prefer an old-fashioned or traditional gender role, then that's your choice to make. If you want to be a stay-at-home mom, that's fine. If you want to be a childfree lawyer, corporate monolith, senior vice president, CEO, whatever while your spouse stays at home and tends to the cats, dogs, or kids, then feminism would ask that the stage be set for you to pursue those options without hindrance and without people commenting on how your ass looks in your pantsuit or stigmatizing your husband for not being the breadwinner. I don't actually think it's that radical in everyday office settings to leave sex out of the equation entirely. As long as everybody doesn't decide to become a fucking bomb, someone is bringing home bacon, and the pets and kids are not left unattended.
It does make me angry how gendered baby clothing and toys for small children are. That is just stupidly unnecessary.
It does make me angry how gendered baby clothing and toys for small children are. That is just stupidly unnecessary.
crimsonfloyd
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Don't have time to read that right now. I agree that income discrimination doesn't go in a single direction, but when it comes to higher earning jobs women often have a lot more difficult of a time being hired.
No sure what you mean when you say "all of the bullshit" but I think most people realize that race and gender are still major issues in our society.
No it doesn't. You're just fixated on a simplistic definition of the term.
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Race or at least cultural differences are always going to be a source of inequality in a country that has mass immigration, I would have thought, unless you only allowed fairly westernised middle class people in or something.
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Yeah race will always be a social issue in America, at least during our lifetime.
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Yeah, absolutely. I wasn't attracted to my previous girlfriend (shut the fuck up) at all when we first met, but as we started to get to know each other better, her physical "imperfections" became endearing and I fell in love with the damn girl.
Laura also makes a good point. Very few waves of feminism, especially now, as far as I know, are trying to "destroy men", or whatever fantasy those ignorant of the movement have deluded themselves into believing. They're just as concerned with men's issues as well. Take the short-sighted stance on child custody that semi-literate MRA types like to bring up, for instance. This is an example of the patriarchy at work. Most feminists want it done away with just as much as everyone else. It's just striving toward the ideal where people aren't consigned to pre-determined roles based on an antiquated binary approach to gender based on the set of biological cards they were dealt at birth.
I can't wait until I live in a world where I can walk into a car dealership or auto repair shop and not be treated like I'm wearing a diaper and a helmet, personally.
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I remember you were surprised ice was slippery after driving on it like a week ago.
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This is done to attempt instill as early as possible a sense of gender and cultural role, here is your pink shit, you will grow up to be a worthless sandwich maker.
Here's some black or boy toys, etc etc, you will grew up to be strong and protect your sandwich/baby maker.
However this does not work both ways, as a woman who is masculine is usually trying to get ahead, better herself. A man who is feminine is automatically bad. Being feminine is badddddddd. Works the same with homophobia.
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balls I've studied this at uni and the definitive point always seemed to be that as much as it irked feminists, they had to admit that gender roles are mostly innate.
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Reimer
there is a lot more to it than that though, likes studies on toy selection and stuff
there is a lot more to it than that though, likes studies on toy selection and stuff
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viewerfromnihil
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I wouldn't quite say that. It's not corporations that attempt to create the sexual dichotomy. It's the culture that demands it.
Master_Yoda77
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After doing a click on AIDSbook, I have to say you are fucked if you don't find her attractive.
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Yeah, but let's be honest, your knowledge of cars is probably equivalent to a being that wears a diaper or helmet.
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