Males and Females

I've met some couples who were successfully open. It takes a certain type. I've come to the conclusion that I myself am reasonably well-suited for non-monogamy. I'd hoped that my woman would grow secure enough in our relationship for us to re-open it but I suspect this will not be the case.

It's not like our sex life is inadequate in any way. A lot of people would kill for it. So the notion of breaking up over this seems ridiculous at best, but at the same time I feel like it has the potential to eat at me.

Success based on what though? Exterior appearances don't necessarily mean shit isn't slowly falling apart.

Admittedly it's a concept I can't wrap my head around.
 
I have more female friends that have been in them than males (though I do have more female friends).

I've been in two. Most people's confusion or insistence that they won't/can't work seems to stem from their own insecurities.
 
I'm very insecure. Probably the poster boy for insecurity.

I'd be interested in trying one though. It really does sound fun and rewarding. Less strings attached.
 
Never considered an open a relationship. To be honest, I've always thought it was people who were really into sex. And not that that bothers me, but the emotional aspect of it would. You share personal things with people you are sleeping with, or at least a lot of women do. In my opinion it's never "just about sex." There's other aspects of that person you like too (besides physical) that would make you want to continue sleeping with them.

It definitely takes that right person for that. I know I'm not. :lol:
 
Meh, not my thing. But I struggle with such high standards I rarely ask anyone out anyway so it doesn't matter. I think I pretty much want a female version of myself. All the fake ass blondes/redheads really hurt the "at first glance" test...
 
if i had a real girlfriend and she was of a high enough level of attractiveness, i would be able to stay monogamous with her. even if there are girls hotter than her, if she's hot enough for me and we loved each other, she would be my only one and i would want to be hers.


but that will never happen so i will continue fucking whores
 
The open relationship is a losing proposition for guys. The girl will always be able to have way more sex than you will. It seems like a weird power play a lot of the time.

For me, it's hard enough to find one girl to bang. If I ever end up in an open relationship, she's getting a free pass to go suck dick while I sit at home doing nothing 90% of the time. Wouldn't seem like a good arrangement for me.