My girlfriend doesn't like prog...

My wife and I share different tastes in music, and we appreciate different sound volumes as well. Has it caused a problem - nah! I can always turn up what I want to hear when I'm in my car alone on the way to work or other times. Would I appreciate her more just because she likes my type of music? Heck no. The things she brings to the table in our marriage are much more appreciated than something so simple as musical tastes. And if we're both sitting in the car with DT or SX blaring on the stereo, can we have a meaningful conversation about whose turn it is to empty the dishwasher? I think not. It's her turn anyway.

My point: if you want to marry her, you're obviously smitten with other characteristics and you have enough in common to enjoy her presence. Maybe if you opened yourself to her music, she would open herself to your music. Aren't all proggers flexible in the ear?
 
I had this problem about a year ago, my boyfriend HATED prog metal especially Symphony X and teased me about them all the time. At first I thought I could handle it, but then I realised that my music is a part of my soul, so disrespecting that is disrespecting me. Not everyone has to like your music sure.. but someone who supposedly loves you is supposed to respect it and would help if they find at least some quality in it to be able to handle it.

Anyway I dumped him.. not because of that (it was only the start of seeing it wouldnt work out), but my metal is too important for me for my partner not to at least like a little. And anything that is a little crack in the surface when your dating, quickly becomes a ravine when youre married. So you might want to try and work out that part of the relationship and come to an agreement you're happy with before it eats away at you. Certainly not to say that things cant work out if you dont like each others music, but the respect of each others tastes is so important i cannot stress enough.
 
I think the key to a successful progressive conversion is in the subtle complexity of the music. Whenever you walk somewhere hand in hand, keep changing pace to represent the constant time signature changes. Don't forget to talk in a syncopated rhythm, occasionally halting altogether before restarting your conversation using a theme revisited from a previous conversation.
 
Hmm I don't think you should try to change her. She will like your music when she will want to, maybe that will never happen though... But there are more important things than music, especially in a relationship. It shouldn't take too much place otherwise it could be quite easy to get disputes with her on that matter, especially if both of you are passionate in music.

My case is just the opposite. The hottest ( and also the most beautiful I've ever seen ) girl I know likes prog and stuff but she's just too good for me, well I guess. :erk:
 
I gotta disagree asmodee....... in my relationship with my girlfriend, it's based in music, was originally built on music, and that remains a very very important part, and there isn't much more important than tunes. And it's a great relationship, totally the best, but very musically based.
 
Maybe you're right. Inconsciously ( or consciously ) music can take a lot of place. It does take a lot of place in my life and that's maybe the reason why I don't want music to interfere in my relationships. I'm glad that it works for you! Not a lot of girls listen to metal where I live ( well I don'T know them that's for sure ) except for the one I talked about.
 
what makes you say she is too good for you asmodee? i hate when guys think that because so often the girl is far more down to earth than you realise and certainly doesnt think herself better than anyone. if you like a girl then GO FOR IT!! you got nothing to lose except a little pride if they say no..
 
I agree with Amanda. On the one hand, it's hard for me to relate to people who don't like my music, but since you've clearly found someone who can relate to you regardless of musical interests, then that's awesome. I wouldn't try to change her. Of course, there's nothing wrong with exposing her to a bit of your music. If she likes it, great. If not, no big deal either. You two love each other and that's what truly matters. :)
 
Realistically, who really cares if she likes your music? She likes you, or she wouldn't be with you. Cherish that; leave the music thing alone.
 
SilentRealm well this is more complex than you think. I've known her for 4 years, but now we don't talk to each other as often as we used to. And now that I moved because of my studies I don't see her so often (approx. once a month during school ). But the worse is that she's 2 years older than me, and age seems to be important for her. Although I'm 18 and people say I look like 22 ( is that really a good thing? ) I still think I'm too young for her. And even worse, she recently got a new boyfriend, who is a fuckin dumbass I heard. Lol. Rough situation isn't it??? I know I should forget her, but this is so hard..!!
 
AsModEe - maybe you can get that guy with the catfish fetish to get her boyfriend out of the picture for you. :grin:

My wife is a year and a half older than I am. Actually, I always related better with "older" girls. But, I can see where she would be concerned about age difference when you are both still young - when she hits 21, you'll still be 19. But, it isn't a big deal when both of you are 21 or older. So, maybe things will work out for you in the long run. Here's wishin' you some good luck.
 
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