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Human Desert
Pirun Morsian
A: No, not for me.
Q: Imagine yourself in this situation: You love your pets more than anything, they're the whole world to you. Your 2 year old cat suddenly dies on your birthday, out of nowhere even though he was fine when you saw him in the morning. This breaks your heart and you lose your reason for living. You get two new kittens who are extremely adorable, and you totally fall in love with one of them, and take care of him and give him all the love that you have. He's really sick though, and for a couple of weeks you watch as he gets weaker and weaker. He's your only reason for living now, you live to take care of him. Unfortunately he's too sick to be saved, and he suffers a lot until he dies painfully. You fall apart and your whole life is ruined. You'll forever be scared to ever get another cat, because they all seem to be taken away from you.
Now it's been 9 and 10 months since your cats died, but you still miss them and cry for them, and can't accept that they're gone. Now you've got a chance to get an incredibly adorable, perfect little kitten to take care of, but you're scared of losing him like you lost the one you got before.
question: Would you take the risk and get the kitten?
Q: Imagine yourself in this situation: You love your pets more than anything, they're the whole world to you. Your 2 year old cat suddenly dies on your birthday, out of nowhere even though he was fine when you saw him in the morning. This breaks your heart and you lose your reason for living. You get two new kittens who are extremely adorable, and you totally fall in love with one of them, and take care of him and give him all the love that you have. He's really sick though, and for a couple of weeks you watch as he gets weaker and weaker. He's your only reason for living now, you live to take care of him. Unfortunately he's too sick to be saved, and he suffers a lot until he dies painfully. You fall apart and your whole life is ruined. You'll forever be scared to ever get another cat, because they all seem to be taken away from you.
Now it's been 9 and 10 months since your cats died, but you still miss them and cry for them, and can't accept that they're gone. Now you've got a chance to get an incredibly adorable, perfect little kitten to take care of, but you're scared of losing him like you lost the one you got before.
question: Would you take the risk and get the kitten?
Caelestia
rawr
You're welcome, Thpakru 
A: Yes. Move on. That's life (and death).
Q: What question do you get asked the most (other than 'how are you')?
A: Yes. Move on. That's life (and death).
Q: What question do you get asked the most (other than 'how are you')?
A: It's either that or never 'get another kitten' again for the rest of your life, and this could be applied to alot of different situations.
A: So I guess it depends on which you find worse, the possibility of further loss or the potential for further/increased happiness at that risk?
I know what I'd choose.
A: So I guess it depends on which you find worse, the possibility of further loss or the potential for further/increased happiness at that risk?
I know what I'd choose.
Ethereal Sage
Mind Of Out Sight Of Out
A: Somewhere in between...too hot for leather here
Q: What colour would you like your car to be (irrespective of if you have one or not)
Q: What colour would you like your car to be (irrespective of if you have one or not)
Human Desert
Pirun Morsian
A: Doesn't matter, they're all cute. But Mortti's colors were perfect. So were Olli's..and Jalle's and Omppu's are. And Limppu's are nice too.
Q: you?
Q: you?
rahvin
keeper of the flame
you're not going to like this, idari, but before getting a new pet of any kind you should solve the issue above. animals are to be loved and taken care of, yes, but to grow so completely involved with them is worrisome. in fact, it would be an exaggeration even if you were to say these very same things of human beings.idari said:
Human Desert
Pirun Morsian
Yeah, i know that, and i agree that it's unhealthy, but i want to love my pets as much as possible and give them everything i can.rahvin said:
@ Spikkeli:
*dies* OH.MY.GOD. what a reado.. *wipes eyes too* :'D
Caelestia
rawr
A: Erm, depends on the car.
Q: What question do you get asked the most (other than 'how are you' or anything of similar meaning)?
Q: What question do you get asked the most (other than 'how are you' or anything of similar meaning
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rahvin
keeper of the flame
i think both humans and animals can appreciate selfless love towards them, but it doesn't really make a difference (in positive or negative) if the source of said love is at risk of destroying herself due to that love or not. so i suggest you try to outgrow the urge to put your sanity or well-being at stake: it doesn't make you a more loving owner of cats, only a more self-destructive one. moreover, when you dedicate yourself to another human being you can expect him to live forever, where forever means more or less for the same time as you, but if you invest so much in loving other forms of life you better protect yourself from the notion that they will die relatively soon. unless of course you develop a fondness for elephants or oaks or sea turtles.idari said:
I am still just trying to follow your line of thought as to how you came about that answer (ie: you were so 'concentrated' on cats that it did not occure to you that a furry car looks silly). Better yet though, you obviously think that a metallic emerald green cat or a flick-paint cat (changes colour when it moves) would rawk... just like I do! ^_^idari said:@ Spikkeli:
On a more serious note, I understand in part, but still can't see how you can get so attached to a kitten that you have presumably only met a couple of times (as s/he is not yours yet). As such I can only assume that it is not the love for any specific cat that pains you, but the potentiall for loss relative to how much you could become attatched to the kitty. On a loosely related note, I am getting my feelings hurt on a regular basis under similar (though obviously not identical) situations, but that still doesn't stop me from putting myself out there (though sometimes not as much as I'd like).idari said:
I'm suprised that in some ways this dilemma of yours does not transfer to other parts of your life.
@Rahvin: Just a thought, but it has occured to me that this attatchment may have something to do with that fact that a pets love is relatively speaking, unconditional?
Sorry to be sounding like a shrink here, I don't mean to be, though I know that is how i am coming off. Just thinking out loud and relating this problem to myself is all.
Sorry to be sounding like a shrink here, I don't mean to be, though I know that is how i am coming off.
Just thinking out loud and relating this problem to myself is all.
Rusty
A-HAHAHA!
A: Coffee, easily.
Q: Do you drink plain water?
Q: Do you drink plain water?
Well yeah, you never put out for me.Spike said:
rahvin
keeper of the flame
that, and the idea of control. in a way, it's a bit like loving the characters in a book. they're eternal, complete, unchanging.Spike said:
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