recommend me something as heartfelt and moving as

Sad Legend - s/t and Searching for Hope in Utter Darkness
Excellent emotional melodic black metal from South Korea. Good keyboard mystique, feamle vocals used perfectly and sparingly.

Poccolus - s/t
Recently re-released doomy pagan black metal (none of that suicidal BM schlock). Influences range from Burzum to MDB.

Officium Triste - Reason
An excellent slow doom/death album. Very moving.

Before the Rain - ...One Day Less
One of the better doom/death releases of 2007.

In the Woods - Omnio, HEart of the Ages
If you don't have these, get out of metal. ;)

If you are not afraid to venture outside of metal, you cannot get much more emotional than Dead Can Dance, a high quality band that many metal bands cite as an influence. Try Serpent's Egg, Aion, or Spleen and Ideal. Another metal band influence from non-metal territory that is highly emotional is Swans. Great Annihilator, and Love of Life are well worth the effort, as is the offshoot World of Skin.
 
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bump again. I want depressing melodic extreme metal. I bet I'll have heard most of the recs, but there should be a few in there I haven't heard.

Seriously check out Warning - Watching From a Distance. It isn't extreme but it's very emotive and 'depressive'. Highly recommended by me.