Someone for everyone?

[Juggie]

Do you guys believe this? "Theres someone for everyone."
Or, is there just some of us, who are not ment to find a relationship with anyone?

 

[ricochet]

I think there could ideally be someone for everyone, but some people just don't look hard enough. They may get sick of looking, been in too many failed relationships, be too shy, or just become completely uninterested in being with someone. I think, if you just have some confidence and patience, you can find that right person eventually.

 

[Juggie]

I remember seeing on one of those talk shows a woman who had some disease that made her chin/face huge, like there was a gigantic tumor in her face. It was rather shocking to see at first but then as her story went on, she had a normal looking boyfriend, and he came on the show and french kissed her. Also there was a woman who had no legs, she got around on a skateboard, she got her a husband. So these extreme cases have tought me there is someone for everyone.

 

[SentencedToBurn]

Originally posted by OpethianSoul
I think there could ideally be someone for everyone, but some people just don't look hard enough. They may get sick of looking, been in too many failed relationships, be too shy, or just become completely uninterested in being with someone. I think, if you just have some confidence and patience, you can find that right person eventually.

i agree with this

 

[Austin7]

No. First, think of all the people in the world (Approx. 6.6 billion). If just ONE of those was your one and only, you're fucked over with 1:6,599,999,999 odds.

 

[RETIREDTrapped]

There may be someone out there for everyone, just like you say, but just because you might find that person, YOU might not be the person for them, and they just brush you off and dump you.

Hows that huh?

 

[Obyeybyeogone]

"No. First, think of all the people in the world (Approx. 6.6 billion). If just ONE of those was your one and only, you're fucked over with 1:6,599,999,999 odds."

More like 100:6,599,999,999 odds.

 

[YaYo]

... with so many people in this world there are many possible lovers for everyone. The problem is, if you're a quiet/shy person who doesn't actively go out socialising so much, and the girls you would like are the same, then how are you ever gonna meet? Its very hard for two quiet people to meet who don't like all the usual socialising things (parties, pubs, etc), especially if they both arent the type to initiate anything, or arent good at first impressions.

The solution if this is your problem : swallow your shyness and think about how anyone would find you, then make sure there is opportunity for people to find you, and look for people in such areas (not much use trying to find a quiet person in a pub). Easier said than done, but it means if your a regular internet user, then searching for another regular internet user who has similar interests may be the trick, you never know who you may find living near you. And it may make their day to.

For every girl that gets her 'knight in shining armour' there has to be a guy who's willing to be that knight.



but what would i know.....

 

[tenebrose]

Yes, I think there is someone out there for everyone. Actually, I think there are usually several people for everyone out there, but circumstances, and being "geographically challenged" screws it up for you some times.
Some people may still be "doomed" to be single due to not trying or not wanting to find "the one". It's a fact some people aren't "happy" unless they fail. They're what I call "chronic losers". People who at one stage or another of childhood learnt that they get attention from failure, or that they get negative attention from succeeding over a certain person (such as an older sibling, the parents etc.) or people who've failed much and are afraid of change. What was my point again?

 

[Misanthrope]

I used to think there wasnt until i found someone for me and became a hopeless romantic...so yes there is.

 

[Blackspirit]

Originally posted by Trapped
There may be someone out there for everyone, just like you say, but just because you might find that person, YOU might not be the person for them, and they just brush you off and dump you.

Hows that huh?

The person is not the right person for you,
if you're not the right person for the person
that is right for you! >P Hehehe...

See what I mean?

You are perfect for eachother. If this one
person doesn't want you, then it isn't the
perfect one for you! >)

 

[Claire's Horror]

there's always a twin soul as well as a nemesis. in my casy I've only found the nemesis. blah...

 

[Siren]

Yeah, I believe there is someone for everyone.
But what if one of those two meant to be together eg dies before they even meet? I guess that lives the other with no match..
I think that finding that someone has a lot to do with pure luck or fate, you name it..

 

[Obyeybyeogone]

I actually think there are over 1000 people that each person could meet and think "This is the one" and live happily with forever. Of course, those 1000 people are scattered all over the world, and most probably don't even speak a language that you speak.

 

[Siren]

Originally posted by Oyo
I actually think there are over 1000 people that each person could meet and think "This is the one" and live happily with forever. Of course, those 1000 people are scattered all over the world, and most probably don't even speak a language that you speak.

Hmmm, I think that when you meet the one you know it
(Not very sure of that lately, but anyway...)

 

[MetalManCPA]

I believe there is someone for everyone - but why bother searching? The world is a big place - you know, like finding a needle in a haystack. If you get "lucky", you might meet up with that somebody. But based on the divorce rate alone - it obviously doesn't happen too often.

 

[S4R]

I’ve found that with adequate stealth and the right concoction there is someone for everyone .

I don’t think seeking out “the one” is the means to go by. Most relationships I see come about on accident. I think most people are pretty fucked up and in forcefully seeking a mate they choose the wrong person to say the least. If you go with the flow, they will come.

 

[Jim LotFP]

Originally posted by tenebrose
and being "geographically challenged" screws it up for you some times.

That's why the internet is great. I met a Swedish sweetie that my phone bill gets destroyed from calling... heh... dunno if she's 'the one' quite yet, but global barriers are coming down... (I know two other people in the States that met people from Sweden and now they're here... hmm... do things happen in threes?)

 

[RETIREDTrapped]

there's always a twin soul as well as a nemesis

A twin soul isn't necessarily the right person for you.

 

[Ethereal Sage]

Originally posted by Trapped


A twin soul isn't necessarily the right person for you.

A 'twin soul' helps you see some of the things in yourself that you possibly haven't seen. I believe most other people think 'the one' is someone who has some of the attributes of what the person would like to become.

Personally, my primal urges want me to find one to 'be with', but I have yet to find someone who could be considered anywhere near a 'complete package' I find that each friend I make has their own good and bad points. I come to the point though where, after seeing so many 'couples' remove themselves somewhat from their lives previous to meeting, and it engenders a somewhat elitist or egotistical qualitly in their 'new lives'.

I find that the 'someone for everyone' idea is intrinsicly embedded in our compartmentalized society, possibly because of trust issues, where we need one to rely on and trust, rather than allowing greater chance of compromise by being intimate with more than one.

I yearn for and appreciate varied input, so at this point in time, I don't think I am ready to accept the 'someone for eveyone' theory.