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that is the LAST thing that will help
ha.
i will be violently sick if i listen to power metal
i have an allergy to that shit
tips for dealing with a break-up?
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that is the LAST thing that will help
ha.
i will be violently sick if i listen to power metal
i have an allergy to that shit
deanbailey
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Might not work for everyone, but I try and change my look a little drastically. It sort of makes you feel like something new and new opportunities are possible which makes you more optimistic.
+1 to the occupy yourself. The worst thing you could do is be by yourself because it makes you think...and depressed.
But keep looking "fresh", opposite sex interest is always a good self esteem builder!
I guess it goes without saying, never consider suicide. Think of your happiest moment (without the girl) and what that person would have thought about suicide (obviously would laugh at the idea).
That worked for me in the past though. now I've sorta learned to switch off emotion for a while and carry on with life as planned.
Good luck
+1 to the occupy yourself. The worst thing you could do is be by yourself because it makes you think...and depressed.
But keep looking "fresh", opposite sex interest is always a good self esteem builder!
I guess it goes without saying, never consider suicide. Think of your happiest moment (without the girl) and what that person would have thought about suicide (obviously would laugh at the idea).
That worked for me in the past though. now I've sorta learned to switch off emotion for a while and carry on with life as planned.
Good luck
J.DavisNJ
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Basically what all these dudes said should work.
I hate to be Debbie Downer, but do you think you can really stay friends with her? This never seemed to work for myself or my friends. The feelings always seem to fester unless you find someone new and way more awesome.
-Joe
I hate to be Debbie Downer, but do you think you can really stay friends with her? This never seemed to work for myself or my friends. The feelings always seem to fester unless you find someone new and way more awesome.
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Basically what all these dudes said should work.
I hate to be Debbie Downer, but do you think you can really stay friends with her? This never seemed to work for myself or my friends. The feelings always seem to fester unless you find someone new and way more awesome.
-Joe
i reckon we can, yeah. its worked out fine before. itll just be difficult for a while.
EerieVon
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Fox Mulder
The Truth Is Out There
Listen to power metal by Primal Fear or Demons and Wizards. They are by far the most depressed power metal bands out there. As depressed as you. If you listen to DragonForce you're gonna fall in love with Herman Li, followed by him dissing you which would end up making things worse.
Jokes apart, cheer up!
Chicks come and go, dude.
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Here's what I did with my first big one.
1. Ask yourself, "So what?". I know, no one can answer that while in that particular stage, but that's the shit. You have to take a good look at reality. "Emotions aren't always realistic" - And no, I just came up with that quote now. I don't know if someone's used it before.
2. If you sit in front of your DAW, thoughts would come to you irrespective of how much work you're doing. Just make sure that 100% of the time you're awake, you're spending time with people. Make your surroundings full with distractions. If you get distracted, you wouldn't have time to think about about your ex. Go camping with your friends or something. I know, sometimes you might feel that you don't wanna do shit. If that's the case, force yourself. Force yourself to do stuff you wouldn't do. If someone points a gun at you and asks you to lick the urinal, would you get shot or lick the urinal?
3. As mentioned above, spending time with people is the key. Drop everything and hang out with your friends. Don't give yourself space to 'think about stuff'.
4. Same as above.
5. Meet new chicks.
EerieVon
Member
Do you really want to be friends after this? Do youy really want to see her progress with her life with someone else?
Fox Mulder
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thats the thing
she was my best friend as well as my girlfriend, and its fair enough that eventually she'll find someone else, i will too, i wouldnt ever want to lose her as a friend though despite that, fuck no.
and maamar, cheers man
im going to london on wednesday with my friend to see Nine inch nails and janes addiction
gonna go around causing carnage, getting wasted all day and doing the oxford street thing, should be cool, looking forward to that. back thursday morning, then it's this local festival on saturday where ill be surrounded by my friends, so im gonna get totally fucking wasted out of my mind
but aside from that, seeing friends is easier said than done. all my close friends live in other towns, that wouldnt be a problem if i wasnt saving my money for wednesday, so fuck off can i afford busses. sucks.
my friend pegi's coming town tomorrow though, so thatll be aight
im gonna go for a walk, clear my head
cheers for the advice guys
Erkan
mr-walker.bandcamp
Woa and I had no clue Gareth! Sorry to hear this dude, how u doin' now?
I can't give any fucking advice though
I can't give any fucking advice though
I feel your pain then... I went through that a couple of years ago and I STILL feel the sting of it sometimes.. looking back on it though, the best advice I can give from experience is to just leave her alone for a bit, give her a chance to miss you. I made the mistake of hounding her, trying to change her mind and shit, and it was just obviously not a good call... ruined any future chances I may have had with her.
The bright side is it never hurts that bad again... which does have its pros and cons, actually.
Pedro Teixeira
Member
Dodo! I just went through the same thing, she left me for someone else, loved me, in the next day didn't... 3 year relationship, we're planning in moving in together... I got really fucking down, didn't even want to move, even get out of the fucking bed.
What I did was, smoke a lot of cigarettes, focus on my work, get out as much as possible with the best friends you have, and think, she doesn't even deserve that I (you) even think of her... just fucking get it out of your system...
What I did was, smoke a lot of cigarettes, focus on my work, get out as much as possible with the best friends you have, and think, she doesn't even deserve that I (you) even think of her... just fucking get it out of your system...
SocialNumb
Damn Christians!
Guess I'm the only one that finds it ok to be alone. To me it's not depressing at all. Then again I'm alone 90% of the time, the other 9% I wish I was. That leaves 1% for people. 
