┼Victim of the Night┼;9457955 said:
age means nothing most of the time, unless it's something like 20 years older or more, in my opinion, of course... because, that would involve too much difference between two persons, differences about the way of thinking, the attitude, the things they both expect from life and their needs...
In general, I agree but you shouldn't bow down to generalisations.
┼Victim of the Night┼;9457955 said:
people who hold prejudices... people who try & tried to sabotage all you do and ruin your life...
These are not people you should be associating with and will do that regardless of who you are with.
┼Victim of the Night┼;9457955 said:
and they often succeed, bad/envious people often have luck, ever noticed that?
If they succeed in making you feel worse those are your problems. The first problem is you haven't cut your ties with them, the second problem is that you are focussing too much on what irrelevant people have to say and think about you.
┼Victim of the Night┼;9457955 said:
my mum and his partner which has been the most amazing dad for me... they couldn't be a better couple
This should be enough proof for you.
┼Victim of the Night┼;9457955 said:
wondering when the girl is really too old for the guy...
The only problem I can see with that goes back to the old way of thinking where girls had to be married while still fertile, to produce many kids.
If a guy wants kids and the woman is barren then that will be a problem but these days some guys don't want kids. Some people adopt so that goes to show how far they will go to be together.
I'd say large age gaps do not work for most people, either they have been conditioned against it or simply don't find it appealing. If it works for you don't let it bother you.
┼Victim of the Night┼;9457955 said:
you can't go back in time and time does not come back.
You are hung on the belief that you must have the perfect partner by a certain age. If you want a family by a certain age, yes you can waste time with the wrong person.
You can't go back in time but you learn and move forward with it, try not to repeat mistakes (easier said than done) and no matter what age you are you can still find happiness with someone.
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