Huh, seems I'm a bit weird
Couldn't get the drummer to gel with a click.
First let me say that making the tempo conform to the drummer takes LITERALLY 15 mins to do a 4 min song (in cubase anyhow).
Once it's all done (the click track ticks right along with the drum tracks that were not done to a click).
Off to programing, programing is much easier when your DAWs meter fallows what the drummer played. It takes about an hour and a half to 2 hours to program the whole song. I haven't given drum tracker a go yet but have been thinking about doing that, EXCEPT I would need it to be able to import that programed to hell and back tempo map and export it that way.
In fact here is a picture of a tempo map for a song I'm doing right now, again this took me 15-20 mins to do, because in this case cubase is pure fucking win:
I find programing what he played a lot easier than editing what he played. Plus his kit sucked so sample replacement seemed to be more logical.
So basically I get the benefits of programed drums (good room, easy to change tempo etc...) with his performance.