I am sure this is true and it works even if you don't necessarily reciprocate that love.
I googled the above phrase and was surprised that nothing came up. Plenty of "what does not kill you makes you stronger" though.
The thing is knowing someone loves you for yourself and not just because they want something from you. And not a situation where you think maybe they love you but it doesn't feel reliable or sincere enough.
There's something very special and reassuring about that.
Any thoughts?
Here's another idea to do with this: I think you can love your ex but because you love them without a personal sense of neediness for them, you are not possessive about them and you wish them well for the future - although you still want them to know you care deeply for them and will always "be there" for them (which may or may not include becoming a couple again in a hypothetical future). And that would be really helpful psychologically for the ex to know that at times when things might be going wrong in other relationships or life generally.
And then love from family members makes you feel stronger too.
In a lot of ways we act so as to maintain this, and not lose that love.
I'm rambling a bit here. Can anyone tell me if there's a particular philosopher that made a similar point?
I googled the above phrase and was surprised that nothing came up. Plenty of "what does not kill you makes you stronger" though.
The thing is knowing someone loves you for yourself and not just because they want something from you. And not a situation where you think maybe they love you but it doesn't feel reliable or sincere enough.
There's something very special and reassuring about that.
Any thoughts?
Here's another idea to do with this: I think you can love your ex but because you love them without a personal sense of neediness for them, you are not possessive about them and you wish them well for the future - although you still want them to know you care deeply for them and will always "be there" for them (which may or may not include becoming a couple again in a hypothetical future). And that would be really helpful psychologically for the ex to know that at times when things might be going wrong in other relationships or life generally.
And then love from family members makes you feel stronger too.
In a lot of ways we act so as to maintain this, and not lose that love.
I'm rambling a bit here. Can anyone tell me if there's a particular philosopher that made a similar point?