I have no issue with it whatsoever. If that's your deal, fine. To each their own. But to claim anyone who disagrees with your view is "full of shit" is just stupid and narrow minded. People listen to metal music for varying reasons.
Sorry dude. I flat out don't believe you.
I do not believe that anyone absorbs ANY kind of aural or visual with no regards to the emotions invoked by its composition. You're claiming that when you listen to music you have absolutely no emotional connection to it. That you just sit dispassionately to the side and rate it for its passion and "bombast" but not WHAT is being represented by it.
Musical choices such as key, tempo, and dynamic are, like the colors and brush strokes of an artist, chosen to evoke certain feelings. When a piano composer writes in a minor key, there's an implied melancholy to it. When a vocalist is shrieking, there is an implied agony. That's WHY these sounds are alluring: they bring to mind a given aesthetic, whatever it may be. When you hear a Moonlight Sonata, you experience different emotions than when you hear the Rondo Alla Turca. Even if you don't understand Latin you know what kind of feeling O Fortuna is intending to present.
Ironic counterpoint can certainly be employed in music. A songwriter might write haunting, personal lyrics and wrap it up in more uptempo music in order to convey a message, or in a movie a scene might use background music that clashes with the visuals for similar reasons, but those are stylistic choices and the incongruity is INTENTIONAL.
What pisses me off is when an artist just slaps a given sound on top of the message they're trying to get across for reasons OTHER than that the sound is appropriate FOR that message. Black metal isn't generally focused on misanthropy, suicide, and nihilism because some council got together and made the decision by fiat. The Lords of Music didn't divide up the sound spectrum via committee hearing and decide that Gospel music would take THESE sounds and death metal THESE sounds. It's because the styles inherently hit our brain in certain ways. The minor key melodies evoke sadness, the harsh vocals present pain, the distorted production conveys distress.
Like I said, it doesn't matter WHAT direction it goes in. If you play for me a gentle and pleasant jazzy piano piece and add lyrics that are an ode to Lucifer and about bloody animal slaughter I'm gonna tell you that idiot did it wrong, too. Pull the lyrics out of music ENTIRELY, listen to PURELY instrumental music and are you gonna tell me that nothing, NOTHING imparts a mood upon you? NONE of it??
It pisses me off because music is ART to me. The whole tapestry of it. From the moment we as a species started noticing that certain sounds were pleasant to our ears we discovered that when put together in certain ways they begin to draw emotions out. That's why there are keys in the first place, why certain harmonies work and some don't. You don't need to have a degree in music, or even really know what music IS, in order to know that dissonance is jarring. Someone with no music background can hear a song and intuitively know what its "home key" is (seriously, play someone a song like the US national anthem and have them guess which note it should end on, people just KNOW which one). It's been demonstrated that people can hear the pentatonic scale and know what notes come next in it. Check it out:
How did they do that? Was it because someone explained to them what tones go in a pentatonic scale? No! Because music gets into the brain in a primitive, very BASIC way. You don't need to be TOLD that major keys sound pleasant and minor keys sound sad, that a minor second is unpleasant or that the "ti" note on the scale just doesn't feel complete until it hits "do". It's the science OF sound. Christian metal that wraps up stylistic choices which are built up from dark emotions around a pile of "praise Jesus" lyrics are doing so for reasons OTHER than that it is a marriage of sound and statement. FUCK that.
If someone tells me that the message behind music is irrelevant, I assume they're either lying to me or so incapable of truly absorbing music that they don't even understand what they're listening to and are just impressed by hearing vibrations.
EDIT: keep in mind dude, I'm seriously, truly, GENUINELY not trying to insult you in any way. This is just a topic I am SEVERELY passionate about and can get worked up VERY easily over.